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Called in by Teacher. Aibu?

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dollywashers · 22/10/2012 16:37

My eldest dd is 8. Her teacher called me aside today to 'have a word'. Apparently a few of the children were talking at wet play time about how babies were made (my dd did not bring topic up). There were various theories. My daughter said they were made from seeds from a man joining with an egg from a woman to grow a baby. Perfectly reasonable I thought. She doesn't actually know about the sex bit yet as hasn't asked. I suspect she thinks the woman eats the eggs :0! But I would be quite happy to tell her at 8 if she asked, age appropriately of course.

Anyway the teacher called me aside and was acting shocked that my daughter had said this. She stood waiting from a reaction from me. I said that I thought at 8 this was a perfectly normal thing for dd to say. She thought not and asked me to tell my dd bit to mention it again as other parents might not like it!! I was a bit too shocked to say anything at the time but thinking about it now it's made me really cross. It's hardly like she was giving the class a sex lesson for goodness sake. AIBU?

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corlan · 22/10/2012 16:54

I was going to ask the same thing - if the teacher is an 'old school' nun that may go some way to explaining her attitude.

akaemmafrost · 22/10/2012 16:55

My dd, Year 1, aged 6, came home and told ME this as told by her teacher, clearly in response to the children's questions. I did not give it a second thought. Weird teacher. If I were you I would have a chat with the HT, you don't want your child knowing this to be indicated as a cause for concern when it really isn't! Bizarre.

neolara · 22/10/2012 16:56

Any chance the teacher might mean that your dd should be more informed? That she shouldn't be talking about seeds but semen, as different terminology might confuse the others?

SauvignonBlanche · 22/10/2012 16:56

How odd!

SusanneLinder · 22/10/2012 16:57

My daughter went to a Catholic school at 8, and still learned about seeds and eggs.:o. Nobody batted an eyelid.

goldface · 22/10/2012 16:57

wow, unhinged teacher indeed. completely appropriate answer from your dd.

Themumsnot · 22/10/2012 16:58

YANBU. Teacher is a nutter. I would ask her for a copy of the school's sex education policy and explain that you are a bit concerned that such basic biological information should be treated in such a secretive way.

WaitingForMe · 22/10/2012 16:59

Like YellowDinosaur and VonScareBurton I'd be speaking to the head.

DH and I read my seven and four year old stepsons Mummy Laid An Egg shortly after telling them I was pregnant. Talk of seeds and eggs needn't be explicit but we do children a disservice if what we tell them isn't factually correct.

Prior to the story DSS1 was basing his thoughts on the nativity!

gwenniebee · 22/10/2012 16:59

How odd! Before I went on mat leave one of the 8yo's in my class stayed behind at break to explain to me (very seriously) that my baby would have to come out of a special hole but if it was too big they would cut me open. I thought it was a hoot and a very good explanation!

PatriciaHolm · 22/10/2012 17:01

If she is 8, yr3, I would have thought that PSHE would have covered this already, so no YANBU at all and I would be very concerned about what kind of PSHE lessons this teacher will be giving....!

DeadTall · 22/10/2012 17:03

yousankmybattleship - couldn't have put it better myself. The teacher is obviously living in some sort of bubble far removed from the real world.

aufaniae · 22/10/2012 17:03

YANBU, nor is DD.

What an odd thing for a teacher to say.

littlebird3 · 22/10/2012 17:04

yanbu my ds age 7 gives a very similar explanation.

aufaniae · 22/10/2012 17:04

i agree with Themumsnot - I would question her comment in the context of the schools sex ed policy.

WorraLiberty · 22/10/2012 17:07

Really OP?

That's just plain odd.

youarewinning · 22/10/2012 17:07

I work in SN school. One pupils mums about to have a baby so been doing lots of social story work on babies - not how they're made but baby may cry, babies sleep in cots etc. Therefore we have lots of mummies having a baby books in the classroom. One pupil looked at one of the books and she pointed to the baby in the tummy of the mum and said "baby in womb". We thought it was brilliant and certainly wouldn't discouraged pupils from knowing the correct information.

JadaSevert · 22/10/2012 17:10

this happened to me as well so infuriating, teachers have to be so careful nowadays though, some parents are very touchy!!

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dollywashers · 22/10/2012 17:21

She's not a nun. Think I will ask for a copy of the sex education policy, good idea. Relieved you all think ainbu.

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Dawndonna · 22/10/2012 17:25

Teacher is definitely a bit of a nutter!

JamieandtheMagicTorch · 22/10/2012 17:28

At 8 both mine knew about the jiggery pokery as well. I suspect teacher might have exploded should she have overheard them discussing this

FrustratedSycamoreBonks · 22/10/2012 17:33

Yanbu. It wasn't as though she was explaining how they then got inside the woman.

kate2boysandabump · 22/10/2012 17:34

YANBU the teacher is bonkers.

I think you should be congratulated that you have explained it your dd in a way that not only she understands, but is happy to discuss with her friends. Good for you OP.

mummytime · 22/10/2012 17:37

YANBU she is!
At DCs C of E primary in year 4 they get the full facts of life explained to them in school for the first time, eg. how the sperm meets the egg. They mainly think its pretty yucky, a few a bit surprised, most not.

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