To feel a bit weird about having to dress up as a school girl?

[DowntonNappy]

My friend has organised a birthday party, and I've been invited. She's having it as the theme 'back to school' and says we should wear 'sexy school girl outfits'. I feel a bit icky about it tbh, especially since I'll have to borrow my dd's tie!

AIBU (and being an old fuddy duddy), or is it all a bit icky?

I used to dress as a St Trinian's back in the day when i was a teen for Halloween, but now I'm a mum - with my very own little school girl - it feels odd.

Don't get me wrong, I'm still going. But just think i'll feel a bit grossed out about the men ogling the women dressed as school girls.

How superior of you stressing for the other "ladies" and being mother hen all night,can't the other grown women look after themselves, do they need you to look after them. Talk about infatalising grown women. Why was it okay back in the day but not now? Hmmm do what I say not what i do, I call the rank smell of hypocrisy on this.

who cares what your friends think

what are you ? a sheep ?

Just dress up or don't dress up as a schoolgirl

But please don't make it sound as though you have to because you know full well you don't.

If you can carry the look off and you're happy to do so then fine

If not - don't.

Honestly? You're all going to look like idiots. Also for all your posturing I think you really want to do it.

Otherwise you just wouldn't go.

Just don't go ! I had the misfortune of accepting an invitation to a hen night a couple of months ago, this was a 45 yr old grandmother's 2nd marriage I thought it would be a nice evening but about a week before she announced that everyone had to come dressed as school girls " for a laugh", I was absolutely horrified, just did not want to do it at all full stop, I was just going to send my apologies saying that I could not make it for some reason or other, but another one of the invitees told me that she was going but not dressing up, so I went dressed in normal clothes, the "friend" did not turn up ( one of her children was ill in the night), I was the only one not dressed up, felt like a complete and utter stick in the mud, everyone kind of stuck together with their outfits on and I was pretty much left out of all the chat - I wish now that I just did not go, it was a hideous evening, everyone looked ridiculous and I stuck out like a sore thumb as well, so after this very long post, going back to my opening line is Just don't go !

ugh RM, I would have just cut my losses and gone home

how tacky

There is nothing sexy about children in my mind, with or without a school uniform.

Just got a little bit of sick in my throat...

I once had to attend a 'school disco' at 19 (yonks ago - military do) and didn't want to look like I was seeking the attention of a perv so I dressed up as a school boy; freckles, scabby knees, plaster, sloppy socks and long shorts. It was ok - I blended in and didn't look like a sad tart.

The tacky schoolgirl thing is kind of a convention, though, isn't it? Nothing to do with what our DDs actually wear to school. Or what we ever wore, come to that. Unless my school uniform regulations were particularly uptight, stockings and suspenders and minuscule skirts were not usually de rigueur back then. All very well to decide not to pander to crude male fantasies, but let's not get it confused with sexualising the idea of children.

Children wear school uniforms.

Completely fine, it's just fancy dress. People are reading too much into it. What are the men going as , schoolboys?

BreconBeBuggered I totally agree it has nothing to do with sexualising children.

For a start off, the legal age of consent is 16 and some school girls are in 6th form til they turn 19.

I personally think it has more to do with grown women looking more sad than sexy...no matter how attractive they are in normal attire.

Sexy school uniforms are creepy.

Sexy school uniforms may be creepy but more so are grown women deciding they need to look after all the other grown women and have to worry about them all night. Can these other grown women not take rseponibilty for them selves or do thesegrown women need you to folow themaround saying what is acceotable, you creep me out not the fancy dress.

Well it's all just a bit tacky, isn't it? And shows a bit of a lack of imagination as far as themes go. Why not subvert it a bit by going for this look?

go as the headmistress.

I was having this discussion with a male friend of mine not long ago, he told me he found the idea of 'sexy schoolgirl' outfits incredibly creepy and uncomfortable. I hadn't really thought about it until he mentioned it but yeah, it is pretty creepy.

It all plays up to the fetishising of girls in school uniform by men. It's creepy and inappropriate.

Just think how many perverts actually do target girls of school age.

Why don't you go as a prosecution barrister?

Go as a sexy teacher.

i think I'll wear the uniform I actually did wear to school as a teen - that was my approach the one time I "needed" to do this for a works party. Frumpy, ankle length skirt, ordinary comfy-looking boots, tie carefully safety-pinned into my buttoned-up shirt, big baggy cardigan, hair in a french plait, scruffy old satchel instead of a handbag. I looked ridiculous, but at least I didn't look sexy.

The whole idea is quite icky, and I wish that grown-up women wouldn't do this.

Yuk.
I'd avoid, but if I had to go I'd wear a lab coat, glasses, bun. Sort of evading the pervy issue in a non confrontational way.

We had a charity back to school disco and don't think it's weird at all it was great fun. We had people turn up as teachers, gym kits, dinner ladies, lollipop ladies, scouts, brownies, nit nurse and even had someone come as a giant crayola crayon!!!