Pissed off FB related sorry in advance

[EleanorBoobsfelt]

I lived with my mum when I had dd who is now a teenager herself. For reasons known only to herself my mother took two photos of me when I was in labour one at home having early ctx and another in a hospital bed. On them both I look terrified and a mess.
I for got about these pics and they have been sat in my dm's loft for years.
Until today when my sil has been for lunch at dm's and they've got the box of pics out and she decided to plaster me as a scared 18 year old in labour over fb. Along with about 5 pics of me just after having dd.
I asked her to take them down but she has only taken the first one off.

I'm really upset though it seems a bit mean to go through photos and put all the awful ones of someone on. I'm also a bit upset because I've really welcomed her into the family and befriended her as she has been really lonely.
I did think we had quite a close friendship but I can't see why she thought this was a good idea.

am i right in thinking SIL has just had a baby herself? has she got her own labour pics on FB? could it be that she is trying to 'force' a bond with you by reminding you that you went through teh same thing she has jsut gone through?

or is she a bit insecure about how she 'coped' with labour and trying to make herself feel better by convincing herself that you didn't 'cope' aswell as her? and perhaps letting everyone else know in an attempt to make you feel insecure about it?

Thoughtless mare.. agree with the 'going nuclear on her ass'

This is why i like MN, it keeps me in line because thats sort of the kind of thing i would think of doing, not to be mean, just totally brain not in gear kind of thing? .. Give her ten nil

Don't hit her though

Wow- get your DD and your mother to phone her and tell her to take all the photos down NOW. They should say Eleanor is livid and this will cause all sorts of problems and what on earth was she thinking putting private birth photos up on FB?

Having access to the photos because she's family means she should be responsible and not embarrass that family.

Your mother should take some responsibility for this as she showed her the photos. DM should also now be aware she can't trust her.

I would call her and ask why she hasn't taken them down, and does she realize how hurtful her actions were?
Then, if she still doesn't take them down, post a comment under them saying the same thing, and report her to FB.
I think for me,it would be very hard to have a relationship with her after that. What does your brother think about this?

Thanks everyone. I spoke again to her last night she hadn't realised exactly how upset by them I was and has removed them. She said my brother dared her to do it.
She has apologised anyway so I don't tink it was truly malicious just thoughtless.

Very thoughtless and just daft really, I'm glad they are off now OP think I'd still be wary of her she might be playing naive knowing full well what she was doing all along (I've got past experience of something simlilar) or like you said she could genuinely have just done it without thinking

You can change your settings on Fb so that you have to approve any photos or posts that you are tagged in before they can be posted.

Can you really Bunch? I shall look into that, I prob need to check my privacy settings as they seem to change them all the time

So sorry your teenage dd is not amused at her baby bum being shown. I smiled to myself as all baby bums are gorgeous. Can't believe your DM is so nonchalant about your obvious distress and seems side with her DIL, that would upset me the most.

Glad it is all sorted now Eleanor.