Last year I went to my partners Christmas work meal and it was awful. One of his friends girlfriends came on to him all night, his other friends wives all ignore me completely - I had an awful time. He came back from work last night saying he'd paid the deposit for this years meal for us. I'd hoped our (then) 7 month old baby would get me out of going as we dont have a babysitter but apparently the bar/restaurant say she can come. Though I'm breastfeeding and won't be drinking, his friends get hammered and I dont really want her around them. Plus the flirtation with his friends girlfriend is the only row we've ever had, and I have no wish to see her again. I see his best work friends wife regularly and she blanks me, I just don't see the point of all being false because it's Christmas. Am I being unreasonable?