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Original poster

to point out what a shit thing it is to drink and drive?

61 replies

Goldmandra · 18/10/2012 21:41

My 15 year old DD1 is sitting in her bedroom tonight praying that her friend who is in intensive care pulls through.

Her mum's car was hit by a drunk driver last night. They took two hours to cut her out of the wreckage and she has had major surgery. Now we all have to sit and wait while she is in a coma.

All because some twunt couldn't resist driving after a few drinks. I hope he thinks it was worth it!

My DD has already lost one friend (very suddenly last Christmas Eve) and now she's in pieces thinking it's going to happen again.

That is dreadful but nowhere near as bad as what this poor girl's family is going through. They are the nicest, kindest, most considerate people you could care to meet.

PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE don't ever take a risk on being the one who causes something like this.

I apologise for the language but it is nothing compared to what I want to say to the piece of shit who made this happen!

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threesocksonathreeleggedwitch · 18/10/2012 22:48

so sorry for your dd's freind do hope she is ok xx

hellhasnofurylikeahungrywoman · 18/10/2012 22:52

Hoping for a good outcome for your DD's friend.

Gooeyhead · 18/10/2012 22:57

I will definitely post the link tomorrow morning don't know how to post links on iPad but will log on via computer and post link tomorrow. Definitely agree about anything to drive the message home!

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Goldmandra · 18/10/2012 23:00

Thank you x

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OhlimpPricks · 18/10/2012 23:09

I hope your daughters friend recovers quickly. Both my sister and BIL have been convicted of drink driving.
I think there should be zero tolerance when it comes to drink driving. No alcohol in the system at all. If you are stopped, and you have been drinking, then you should be banned from driving for life.
If people thought they could never drive again, they would not risk it for one moment.

YellowDinosaur · 18/10/2012 23:11

Keeping everything crossed for your dd friend xxx

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Goldmandra · 19/10/2012 08:20

I so agree about zero tolerance!

We are told not to expect much change for a while so we all continue to sit and pray Sad

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ChickenFillet · 19/10/2012 12:15

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INeedThatForkOff · 19/10/2012 13:53

That is dreadful news, OP, and I hope.your DD's friend pulls through.

I too have been thinking about this a lot recently - my DB lost his closest friend, aged 20, in a hit-and-run recently, and although the case has not yet come to trial, I suspect under the circumstances that alcohol was involved.

Question: the partner of a member of my extended family boasted at a party about his perceived right to drink and drive if he chose to. I didn't personally hear it but was told of it.

Also, my aunt noticed that another member of the family probably drank too much and drove at a separate gathering.

I feel that I would like to report these drivers to the police in some way - if it's true.and habitual, I want them off the road. Could I do this, based on second-had information?

giveitago · 19/10/2012 15:49

Gold - I'm with you.

My rule is that I'd never have even one drink and drive as I have no idea how it would impair my judgement and I never want to find out either.

I've lived in countries where it's almost a national sport and I was considered a right prat for not getting in a car when I felt the driver was over the limit. Happy to be considered a prat on this issue.

Hoping this family pull through.

expatinscotland · 19/10/2012 15:52

Luke McCormick, the slime that he is, should still be in prison. He killed those two boys and physically-impaired their father for life.

MissPerception · 19/10/2012 16:12

Anyone who drinks and then gets behind the wheel of a vehicle is a potential murderer.

cheekydevil · 19/10/2012 16:20

I agree with cider it should be zero tolerance. One glass can lead easily to another.
My sincere wishes to you all especially her family. Wishing a speedy recovery.

Alisvolatpropiis · 19/10/2012 17:26

YANBU!

Not at all. Drink drivers should have the book thrown at them. I enjoy a drink,have never and will never,drink drive. That is what taxi's,buses and my own pair of legs are for.

Sincerely hope your daughters friend makes a full recovery!

pointyfangs · 19/10/2012 18:52

I'm one of the zero tolerance brigade too. There is no excuse. You're in my thoughts, OP.

doinmummy · 19/10/2012 19:51

I phoned the police when my partner ( now ex) got behind the wheel when he was drunk. He wriggled out of it though because although it was obvious he had just got out of the car the police arrived just too late to catch him behind the wheel.

doinmummy · 19/10/2012 19:52

My thoughts and prayers are with you op . Please god it's a happy outcome .

Gooeyhead · 19/10/2012 20:54

I didn't want anyone to think I wasn't going to post the link as requested by gold!! My laptop is playing up and I don't know how to link on the iPad but I'll post as soon as I can!! Yes expat he is disgusting and now free to live his life!! There was a picture of him in June sat in a pub beer garden with a pint of cider!!! I would have thought killing 2 young boys would be enough for him never ever ever to touch alcohol again!!! Makes me so angry!!! Angry

ThatVikRinA22 · 19/10/2012 21:00

people do still drink and drive all the time - ive no idea what it takes to stop them.

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Goldmandra · 19/10/2012 23:37

We've had some good news today. All the prayers and good wishes must be getting there Smile so thank you.

DD's friend seems to be out of danger but is still has quite a serious neck injury. She's not fully conscious yet but there must be good reason to be optimistic.

DD is mightily relieved and planning how she can cheer her friend up.

There's still a long way to go but things are looking up.

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Bunbaker · 19/10/2012 23:44

I hope she makes a good recovery.

I once reported a neighbour of ours for drink driving. He didn't just have one or two and drive, sometimes he would be almost legless. My daughter plays outside in front of the house and could easily be a victim of his drink driving.

EnglishGirlApproximately · 19/10/2012 23:48

Agree it should be zero tolerance. You never need a drink when you are driving. If you want to drink then walk or get a taxi.

Thoughts with your dds friend.

scaevola · 19/10/2012 23:49

I am seriously hard line about drink drivers; always was but especially since one smashed into my mum.

She's fine; I am so glad there is better news about your DD's friend and hope fervently that this progress is the start of a full recovery.

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Goldmandra · 21/10/2012 10:35

She's going to be woken up today with a halo fixed to her head poor girl.

The angry bit of me wants to know what's happening to the driver but there is no way I can ask the family this. Any ideas of how I can find out?

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MissPerception · 21/10/2012 16:08

What on earth does a halo fixed to her head mean? I hope it doesn't mean what it looks like.