To find this a bit weird of MiL?

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MiL was here over lunch to help administer antib's to DD, she also stayed a bit longer to wait for a delivery while I put 5mo DS to sleep upstairs.

I've only just noticed that all the houseplants in the kitchen are a little...moist...some of the orchids are sitting in 1cm of water [horror]

She must've done it whilst I was upstairs...but she didn't mention anything when I came down. She is good with plants too so I'm a bit as to why she would leave them drowning.

Would you find this weird? I guess she was a bit bored. But I'd never do this in her house, not without asking/being asked. Not that I'm not grateful...

I work for a florist who specialises in orchids and he says put an icecube on the compost and let it melt in. And keep them out of direct sunlight.

My MIL repainted my dining room when I went away....she also stuck tacky decals all over DDs HANDPAINTED ANTIQUE BED which lifted the fecking paint off.

Now THAT'S weird!

Bloomin heck silver...... Change the locks!

What, like in a different colour, or just a touch up? Either way I'd hit the fucking roof!

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I would find this annoying and interfering. My mum always starts doing "jobs" to be "helpful" as soon as she enters any of our (me or my siblings) houses and I agree it does have the subtext of "how useless you all are, you're incapable of keeping your house how I think you should" e.g. She went to my brother andSILs lovely new house and went on and on for ages about mowing the lawn, then sloped off to get the mower and made a massive drama about doing it herself! V similar law mowing incidents at my sisters place too. Obviously a bit of plant watering is quite minor but I would definitely rather visitors just refrained from doing any and all uninvited household tasks! I do find it rude when family members/guess start - it is not their house.

Guess was supposed to say guests

YABU, sorry.

Headless she painted it in a horrid shade of yellow...it was white. She said "Oh I found that paint in the shed and you've been saying that you wanted it doing...I thought I'd get on with it."

The bed, I couldn't speak about as I would have sworn. DH had a word. MIL said "But DD wanted them on there!"

DD was FOUR and shouldn't have had a say in the matter...MIL had brought the decals around and just let dd stick them on the bed...fucking dolphins.

Sorry to go on but the wound is open now....the bed was amazing...it had a posy of flowers handpainted on the headboard and the decal half covered them and they came off.

I couldn't replace it..

My MIL completely rearranged my kitchen cupboards when Dc1 was young.

Wouldn't have minded to much, cos I'm a bit of a slattern but she unforgivably moved the chocolate into a never used stupidly higher cupboard... I am 5ft she is 5ft11.

We had words.

for you

My MIL once cleaned the drawer of my washing machine (how did she know it was dirty??) but then my own mother has also done that once.

MIL also took it upon herself to point out all of the slightly out-of-date items in our fridge. All fruit/veg, nothing that would have poisoned anyone.

Both sets of parents paint things in our house, sometimes they ask first. Luckily we have no antiques to ruin.

You should ask yourself how you would feel if your own mother did the same thing. If it wouldn't bother you then YABU.

Your MIL was trying to be helpful. Granted she made a pretty useful job of it and probably killed your orchid, but her heart was in the right place.

My MIL cleaned my hob without saying anything and I was a bit annoyed by it. It was a complete mess but I totally took it as 'since you can't be bothered keeping a clean house I'll do it for you'.

However when it comes to the gardening she can knock herself out! it would be a jungle if she never came round

To be fair, you asked her round to help with administering medicine to your child, and supervising a delivery (while you were in the house).
You do seem to need quite a bit of help; but are being quite selective as to what areas she's actually allowed to involve herself in.
Could she ever please you?

wow lots of judgeypants here tonight!

I LOVE it when other people clean my house. Tried to get the HV to wash up last week, she was having none of it

My DM's house is absolutely overflowing with grotty plants she grows from cuttings. I'm always overwatering/underwatering the damn things but they won't die. Just saying.

EllenParsons My mum does that exact same thing but only to me and my sister. Bro gets away with it for some reason. She'll say "Right, shall we tackle that understairs cupboard now." and haul everything out, criticise it, then complain about how shattered she is. She is a nightmare with the lawnmower too. She'll wait until everybody has sat down then pointedly crashes about in the garden whilst shaking her head at us through the window.