to be angry with my son's GF

[mamabearcomingouttoplay]

Well she's his ex GF now.

He did something she didn't approve of (smoked a bit of weed on a college trip, he assures me it was a one off and I believe him) and to punish him she decided to stop taking the pill - when they were together she would fake taking it then spit it out! She did this for two months but thankfully didn't get pregnant. She had done something previously that meant he didn't fully trust her but thought they were trying to rebuild their relationship. He now doesn't trust her at all and has decided to end it.

I'm not unreasonable to be angry about it am I???

It sounds like they're better off broken up. But I agree with the others saying they should have been using a condom too. If your ds had been behaving responsibly then the "punishment" wouldn't have really made much difference.

Why woudl she say what she had about the pill if he had been always using condoms?

Seriously - adolescents aren't always open and hnest with parents who think they are.

Why was she spitting them out? Did he watch her take her pill every day? Surely she'd just bin them and tell him she's taken them?

If she was deliberately getting his attention so he watched her then run away and spit it out it seems even more strange. Your son did the right thing ending things before the games escalated even more or he ended up being a father.

I wouldn't be angry I'd feel rather sad for her and relieved for my son.

Yeah - I was very open with my mum too - told her everything. Everything that I wanted her to know that is...not the stuff I didn't.