or is my DH.....?

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He has had a nasty cough for a couple of weeks, the whole family has had the sniffles etc, but his cough has been particularly bad. He is improving now,but has a lingering dry tickle cough.

I just went upstairs to talk to him, and he was playing on his i phone, we started talking about something, and he put the i phone in his lap whilst we talked. I was in the middle of a sentence, and he suddenly had a coughing fit. I waited for him to finish, so it went quiet, an he picked up his i phone and continued playing the game.

I said that he was rude and ill mannered to have interrupted me with the coughing.

He said that he couldn't fg help it,

I said that he ought to have finished the coughing, and then apologised for interrupting, and/or ask me to continue...

If I began coughing in the middle of someone talking, once I had recovered, I would say " sorry about that, you were saying....?"

Likewise, (for example) if I am in a conversation, and my children interrupt and need attention, once I have dealt with them, I return to the point in the conversation, and attempt to continue

AIBU to be offended by my DH ? Or am I being a bitch ?

SecretCervix, that's not quite it though, is it? He interrupted hervby coughing which he can't help, certainly, but then he picked up his game as if she hadn't been talking when he started coughing or as if he wasn't interested in what she had been saying.

I must say, apps/games are pernicious. You are dragged back to them so easily when you have been interrupted in your play.

However, op, don't forget that you interrupted him in the first place. Did you say "excuse me, dh, can we talk about x" or "sorry to interrupt, but I need to find out about x" or something?

After 20 years of marriage, we both give and take a lot, and I'm not making a big deal of this, it isn't important really, just wondered if IABU. Can't ask anyone in RL... That is why I love MN, can ask these things. Sometimes I wonder if I am mad or if its everyone else, i come on here just to see.

i think its me

I'm up for it Ruby, but you'll have to ask my condescending yourself

If he was ill I'd agree with you, but it's just a lingering dry cough.

It's the not acknowledging what the other person was saying that annoys me, as though it's of little consequence so not worth finishing. He might well have forgotten or thought the OP had finished, which is why you have to speak up and insist on finishing (which I would do in a good humoured way with DH, but not with the other person who does it to me (they're far too loud for me to be heard anyway))

It's not about being formal in a relationship, it's about being listened to and heard.

Actually, I wandered into the bedroom and asked him why Homefront wasn't on TV tonight It wasn't very important or intriguing, I must admit.

He put his phone down to listen to you initially though OP, you should be grateful!

HA ! yes, that is something.

Picking his phone up to carry on playing a game when you're mid conversation IS rude, and it would bug me.

A coughing fit however cant be helped, although like you id probably say something like "sorry about that, what where you saying?

Its just good manners innit ?

Its just good manners innit ?

oops sorry x 2

Yes, it is.

geez.

he clearly finds you dull. pretends to cough.

are you being serious? :)

Oh wow this happens to us quite regular recently. As follows:

Me: So DS2 did a poo that was dark green today, it had yellow bits in. I think he's having too much...

DH: Cough cough cough cough COUGH COUGH COUGH SPLUTTER

Me: Are you ok?

DH: Yeah thanks, can you pass me a tissue?

Me: (passes tissues) So anyway, I think he had too much avocado...

It really wouldn't occur to me to be annoyed about it! He's suffering enough! The iPhone thing was rude though, I would have pointed that out. YABU about the coughing and YANBU about the iPhone.

A dry cough? What was he supposed to do? Quietly choke and go blue in the face while you finished your story??????

He was rude to pick the phone back up.

You are unreasonable to expect an apology for an involuntary action.