Hi, been lurking and this is my first post, so I'm hoping that people will be gentle! Sorry - long.
Basically, my sister really upset me 3 years ago and I'm still fuming about it. She moved abroad with an Polish man, and it didn't work out, so she was back within the year.
She had no job when she came back, we had entered the recession and my mum and dad didn't want to put her up (she has previous form for taking the piss). So, I let her stay at mine on the understanding that she would contribute towards some of the bills. I was a single mum, working a 40 hour week and privately renting at the time.
Anyway, she wouldn't get a job for ages, and was vile to me saying that just because I was working in a shitty job that I hated, that didn't mean that she had to do it.
We also got a small inheritance each. She spent hers within a month, and she borrowed some of mine, which I had decided to save. Never paid me back, never paid towards bills. But, she had met a bloke who ended up being round at my house every night. I kept finding cocaine paraphernalia on my best plate (they were smoking skunk also), and I asked my sister to stop, because my son was in the house. She basically told me to piss off. She ate all the packed lunch food for my son when she had the munchies in the evening, and I'd frequently wake up to find there was nothing left for my son's lunch, so had a mad dash to get shopping, drop my son off at chilminders and get to work. Again, when I pulled her up on this she got very nasty and threatening.
Anyway, I became very ill during this time and I was basically hauling my arse into work and coming home in the evening and crashing out. My parents had to pretty much look after my son for a couple of months until I got better. During this time my house became very messy! I asked my sister if she could stop having her boyfriend over every night so I could have some privacy. She told me that we both knew that there was nothing physically wrong with me and that I had a mental health problem and needed help. Apparently she could tell this by the fact that my house way messy. Anyway, I was very physically ill at the time and struggling to not lose my job and the house I was renting.
Oh yeah, it turned out the money she was borrowing off me and my parents was to buy coke and skunk. She even smoked skunk in the house the night before my boss had to pop over to drop something off. The house stank and I had to rush round sorting it out.
Fast forward to the present, my sister has had a baby and it's like she expects me to be cool about everything. She has never once said sorry, or paid any money back. I'm not worried about the money, but I really don't think I can forgive her, especially for saying I was mentally ill when I was going through a time of serious helath problems. I don't want to be part of her, or her childs life. I know her and my parents are hurt by this. But I can't help the way I feel. AIBU to not want anything to do with her indefinitely?
Thanks if you made it this far!