Hi,
I have had a really tough year, losing my first baby to a missed miscarriage (no heartbeat at our scan). It has taken me a while to pick myself up but I am getting there and as part of the getting the old me back, I am having a small gathering of friends round, not disimilar to an avon party type thing, with drinks and nibbles.
One of my better friends, who's knows what a tough year I have had has now asked if she can invite her sister, to cut a very long story short, this sister has been a complete bitch to me and my partner in the past and has never invited us to any of her parties. It since transpires that my friend has just got engaged and wants to announce to everyone on my party night, so wants her vile sister there also.
I feel a bit childish about this, but all of a sudden my 'trying to get myself back together' party feels like it has turned into an engagement announcement party and I feel obliged to invite someone into my home, that makes me feel very uncomfortable. I know the excitement of the engagement has meant my friend is not thinking about anything like this and perhaps in many ways I am being silly, but this was a big deal for me and now it feels like its become something else and I feel like cancelling the whole thing.
I would also like to add that it is not helped by the fact I have been engaged to my fiance for over 5 years now and he keeps putting setting a date off, which I am also highly sensitive about and my friend knows this. So why of all places does she feel it appropriate to make her announcement in my home, after everything I feel I am trying to cope with?
What do I do?
I feel like I am being a baby but its how I feel and I genuinely feel really upset about it all now.
Many thanks