AIBU to think this is a little rude as a question?

[TheDetective]

I may be being a little hormonal here nothing new there but lately I've noticed a lot of people asking me the same question. I have a 10 year old DS, who clearly isn't my DP's, as DP is 22 (I'm 27).

As soon as they ask the question 'oh, is he not his father' they follow up with, 'does he still see his father?'. Thankfully, this is mostly not in front of DS!

AIBU to find this quite rude, and invasive? The answer is yes, but really, is it anyone elses business? Would you ask the same question to someone? What if it was the father, would you ask him if he still saw his child?

I'm just fed up of answering it to be honest! I'd like to come up with a witty retort than more than the MN standard responses!

I'm probably just being unreasonable to see it as a rude question though!

DS1 and 4 are red-heads, DS2 and 3 brunettes. I assured someone once that "they do all have the same father - whoever he was"

YANBU

Maybe, when asked you should say 'yes, DP is, didn't you see it in the papers at the time?'

Blast, there should have been an additional comma after "...asked"

Oh I'm sure they're not trying to be rude. They're also not trying to practice any social skills at all.

I was once out with DS and DP, a pair of witches older women talking to us happily and DS... Until DS called DP by his first name. Then they looked at me and said, "Oh... So this isn't you sons father?", tutted at me, and walked off! My jaw nearly hit the floor!

I've been asked this quite a lot (I have a DS who doesn't see his bio father, most people have known me as a single parent, although I have a DH now). I've always found it a bit uncomfortable, but not rude as such. I don't think people are being judgemental in my case, they have often seemed more sympathetic/understanding once they knew there wasn't a father figure to help out.

Weirdly, now I do have a partner, everyone just assumes DS is DH's child, as the ethnic mix is right, although they look nothing alike.