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To think i ANBU to make him pay

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Fishwife1949 · 15/10/2012 16:06

Right my son has braces he is 12 nearly 13 and lost them about 4 months ago they cost me £70 to replace them he has come home today and broken some how the bottom lot and told be me cock and bull about a boy who pushed and and wouldnt yu know he cant remebr what boy or the year he was in.

So i demanded the france money he had earned to pay for them i cant afford to keep getting new ones if he brakes them again he will go with out as we cant afford to keep replacing braces and £70 and £40 a pop

When he gose to france he will have no spending money and at the moment i dont really care because i am so cross

Am i being unfair

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McHappyPants2012 · 15/10/2012 16:31

When he had them, phone playing up yet again

IneedAsockamnesty · 15/10/2012 16:32

jobs for money towards a replacement is much better than just taking money already earnt for a important thing.

OutragedAtThePriceOfFreddos · 15/10/2012 16:36

Maybe he did do something wrong, but plenty of children hide it from adults if they are being bullied. It's certainly not unheard of.

OP is obviously in the best position to judge, so if she thinks it was because he wasn't wearing them when he should have been, then fine. But I still think that making a special trip hard for him is unfair. It's shit having to have braces at that age, and it's even more shit that he gets punished for it. How many adults have accidentally broken or lost their glasses? These things happen.

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Fishwife1949 · 15/10/2012 16:37

QuintessentialShadows he has to have the click in ones before he has the fixed ones

He is not being buillied ladies he is carless

We already lost

1-i pod ( which he didnt even look for)
3- lots of pe kit (so now he was the no name stuff and trainers form tesco)
1- penicil case
And one trainer which he chucked over next door garden trying to scare a fox but his trainer laned on the roof and the fox didnt budge

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SoupDragon · 15/10/2012 16:40

I just don't think this type of brace is suitable for a child

But Macy, different braces do different things. In my DSs case, you can't get the results he has seen had through having train tracks.

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Fishwife1949 · 15/10/2012 16:40

I am fucked off which replacing things and him not really careing because its not his money

When he lost his i pod he didnt even look for it

And dont get me started on the frigging pe kit i didnt even tells oh the 3rd he would of had a stroke

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Fishwife1949 · 15/10/2012 16:42

SoupDragon i do agree thatthey should really expect them to get broken but i guess its because they do get lost and broken all the time is the reason why hey charge

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ENormaSnob · 15/10/2012 16:44

Yanbu

I got pissed off with ds1 constantly losing stuff. Easy come easy go.

The last time he had to replace it himself by doing chores to work the debt off iyswim.

Funnily enough he hasn't lost anything since!

lunar1 · 15/10/2012 16:46

I don't thin the brace it the thing to make a point over. I was very careful but lost one after I had to take it out to eat, it hurt too much after tightening to eat with it in. I also broke it twice, they are quite flimsy. Ask to make the plate thicker next time

SoupDragon · 15/10/2012 16:47

To be fair, our orthodontist has made many many repairs to both DS1 and D2s braces, free of charge. It is only when they are lost or beyond repair that they, quite rightly, charge. Sometimes when a break has happened for no reason they go halves!

IMO, "charging" DSs via chores they wouldn't ordinarily in order to earn the money back means they see that money has to be earned, it doesn't just appear magically. It also means that I don't have to do those chores :o

DS1 has certainly been more careful with his Oyster card since I made him pay back the cost with ironing. (famous last words!)

QuintessentialShadows · 15/10/2012 16:59

Gosh, I should hope he is carless! Shock

digerd · 15/10/2012 17:02

How could he lose 3 lots of PE kit? Good for the fox. - I'm an animal lover. he shouldn't have done that. Your son seems to have his head in the clouds as people told me I had as a teenage girl. I lost loads of stuff on the buses, in shops etc. My sister refused at 7 years old to wear her glasses, but wasn't reprimanded as parents knew it would do good and she'd have a tantrum but she was a determined to have her own way type, and was very focused and organised. He may grow out of it as he matures, but no, if you are sure he is not being bullied and it's because he just doesn't care, then he is out of order. But still tackle him after his french holiday. Perhaps by warning him that if he carries on like this , it will be his last school holiday you will pay for, and he has to pay for everything he has carelessly lost out of his pocket money.
My parents couldn't afford to pay for school holiday trips abroad in the 60s (!) so when my sister was 14, she got a Saturday job in a shop and saved to pay for hers - I said she was determined. Think 14 is too young to work now ?

digerd · 15/10/2012 17:12

ps" as parents knew it would do NO good " -correction

whois · 15/10/2012 17:20

I had those kind of braces. I had a case they were meant to go in while eating too.

Lunchtime, braces in pocket, jumped onto a wall... Broken braces.

Mum got the truth out of me after my half baked attempt at a lie!

MmeLindor · 15/10/2012 17:24

Is he going alone to France, ie with the school? Or with you?

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Fishwife1949 · 15/10/2012 17:30

With the school its a christmas shopping trip

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