to think this is really rude?

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I really don't know if IABU or not. We don't own any pets. DDs birthday today. DMIL, DSIL and family invited for tea. Pissing down outside. They arrive - with 3 dogs in tow. Dogs let in and out a few times to the back garden, running in and out over floors with their dirty paws. The place now stinks of wet dog.

If you were invited to someones house - would you bring your wet dogs????

I cannot believe someone bought dogs round to someone elses house. Why did they bring them round. I am shocked people can actually be that inconsiderate!

Not letting them in would NOT have been rude.

Wow, you are a much nicer person than me but then my family and friends are a lot more considerate than yours so it would be a shock if they did something like that.

God that last bit sounded a bit rude - I didn't mean it that way!

were any of the dogs assistance dogs?

if not yanbu

Yes they've done it before - so I guess because i've never said anything before they think I'm OK with it. And generally I am - when they are dry!

I'd never take my dog to someone else's house without asking first. My parents / gran etc are fine with it but the in-laws don't seem very keen on her so haven't asked (even though there's no way they could use the muddy / hairy animal excuse as MILs standards of cleanliness is awful)

It's rude not to ask beforehand if you can bring your dogs. It's rude not to clean up after them or to not towel them down before coming in it they're wet.

Sounds like you need to make it clear that they shouldn't bring the dogs again.

Not, it's not reasonable, but they did it. And they'll probably do it again. If they don't see a problem with it and you haven't said anything, they've no reason to believe it's not ok with you.

it's coming to winter, so let's assume that we're in for a lot of wet and horrible weather. It's probably fair to say you've got more of this to come If you aren't willing to say anything, then you are going to have to find a way to not let it bother you. you've chosen to accept it because you don't want to deal with the attitude or argument you may have. Fair enough. Everyone has to decide for themselves whether they can cope with a row or not. But if you accept that you've made this choice, it may prevent you ending up seething, feeling like they're being rude or resenting the mess it makes. Or by the end of winter, you'll be watching from your attic with a machine gun, waiting for them to come up the path...

I assume that if you're not willing to tell them to not bring the dogs, you're not willing to throw a cloth at them and tell them to clean up the mess? Or throw a carrier bag at them and tell them to pick up the shit?

Are they, like, scary killer mad axe murderers or something?

Our dog stays in the car unless it is OK for him to come in. He won't stay in the house on his own so he has to come with us but is happy in the car.

Prior to getting my own, I wasn't particularly keen on dogs and even now I'm quite selective. I would never expect him to be welcome in anyone else's house and, even if he was specifically invited, I'd have to weigh up how much of a pain it was likely to be for me to police his visit.

Isn't it interesting, though, that for you to mention you were put out by their behaviour (and by "their" I mean the humans) would cause a major incident, yet your hurt and upset doesn't qualify?

YANBU. I'm not a 'doggy' person, I'm not a pet person at all. It's your house, and they were very rude to just assume it was OK to bring them and then proceed to let them run all over the place.
If you don't have pets, then suddenly have dogs in, the 'pet smell' will be blatantly obvious, when it isn't in a house where there is pets as it becomes the norm.
They wouldn't have got through the door with the dogs here, I wouldn't have had them in.
I'd have said something like "lovely to see you, but could you take the dogs home as they can't come in here."
They shouldn't have been so bloody rude as to presume.

My ils do this too, drives me barmy, the dogs are carted around like they're dcs! And they fecking yap when my dcs are in bed