To stop my DS's friend from coming to our house to play a game his own mother has banned him from having?

[CrikeyOHare]

My DS is 16 - and, along with 90% of his male classmates, will be getting Black Ops when it comes out in November. You can flame me for this if you like, but for various reasons I have decided to allow my DS to have it, and I'm comfortable with that decision.

But - one of his friends, Roger (obviously not his real name) has been told by his mother that he can't have it. Given that the game is rated 18, & Roger is 15, I think that's perfectly fair enough - and it's not my business anyway.

But DS has piped up this morning that he's promised Roger he can come round ours & play it .

I said "Well, un-promise him that then" etc. etc.

And thinking about it further, I've decided to have a blanket rule that none of his friends can play any game in our house if it's rated older than they are without the permission of their parents.

DS is furious at me, and apparently I'm going to "humiliate" him in front of all his mates. But I know that I would be mightily pissed off if I'd banned my own DS from a game &/or DVD etc, but someone else lets them play or watch it.

So, AIBU?

I am the strict mum here - my 14yo whines about being 'the only' one who isn't allowed 18 rated games. I do let him play if he goes to friends' (which is rare) as I don't want to spoil the party & I know that he watches clips on Youtube etc etc but I have put my foot down about allowing them at home. I really have a thing about first person killing games - perhaps I'm an old fuddy-duddy but there it is. I'll probably unbend after his 16th birthday - we'll see

YANBU, we have a strict rule about age limits as well.

The game is rated 18 for a reason. Because it is suitable for those who are 18 and over. No one has the right to judge your decision to let your son have the game but think about the message you are giving him . By supplying him with the game, you are breaking the law, and you're saying to him that it is ok to flout the aw. As I said, I'm not judging you, but just think of the example you are showing.

Thank you for your input OlimpPricks but I am very comfortable with the example I set my son.

It is not illegal for him to play the game, only for him to buy it. I shall be buying it with his money so no laws have been, or will be, broken.

I've made my decision on a) what I know about the game and b) what I know about him.

:)