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To insist that DH takes the storage unit back?

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SlightlySuperiorPeasant · 13/10/2012 14:58

This morning DH got up early and put up a storage unit in our living room as a 'surprise'. It is horrible. It's huge it doesn't match any of the other furniture, it sticks out into the room and it makes the room look smaller and darker. All not good but the thing that really, really irritates me about it is that this is the latest in a string of unsuitable things that he has brought into the house and put up without giving me a say.

He buys stuff like this because he thinks it will be nice, or "it's a really good deal". It then sits in its box for weeks/months while I point out that it's the wrong colour/we don't have space and then one day he decides to put it up while I'm out/asleep and presents it as a massive surprise and aren't I delighted? No I am not! Then he sulks. Then it ends up staying because he conveniently screws up the packaging so he can take it to the tip. Then he does it again.

Worst of all is when he has one of these bright ideas, does discuss it with me and we decide against it, then by some odd coincidence his mother decides to buy whatever it is as a present, so of course we have to put it up (again while I am out/asleep). Or when he buys as a 'present' for me. Argggggggghhh! The only item of furniture I have chosen in the whole house (I didn't even choose the house, he viewed it and put an offer in before even mentioning its existence) is the baby's cot.

Today I finally lost it and told him that either he takes the unit down and takes it back today or I will be paying someone to come and remove every but of junk that he's sneaked in.

/rant. Feel free to ignore, I feel much better now :)

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SlightlySuperiorPeasant · 13/10/2012 19:49

The unit is down. The pieces are now propped up against the dining room wall. Anyone care for a sweepstake on how long they will stay there? My bet is on 3 months.

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DontmindifIdo · 13/10/2012 19:54

OK, he's taken it apart, he's got until a week on Monday, give him one week and all of next weekend to deal with it, then you call the council and pay to have it removed/call a charity to take it. No backing down, if it's still there in 3 months, it's only because you've let him. He needs to learn...

CookingFunt · 13/10/2012 20:53

Don't complain about brown. I came home from hospital to find dh had painted the kitchen pink. Not a soft pink but fucking Barbie pink. So there I was,cast on my arm with a bucket of "magnolia " trying to cover it.

SlightlySuperiorPeasant · 13/10/2012 21:04

:o Love the Barbie pink!

I should mention that I am 39 weeks pg with DC2. The baby's room was supposed to be done in June, when I took DS away for 5 days to give DH the time to do it. He redecorated someone else's flat instead Angry and also decided to redecorate our bedroom, so at 5 months pg I came home to no bed AngryAngry Then it was supposed to be done by the end of August. Hmm. It's now one week away from due date and the baby stuff is still in the loft (which I am 'not allowed' to access by myself) and his priority is a unit for the living room AngryAngryAngry MIL took DS to Legoland for the day so I could rest and DH could finish the baby's room. He has now declared that he needs to replaster the wardrobe

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Inertia · 13/10/2012 21:17

Get a decorator / handyman in to decorate the baby's room and get the stuff out of the loft.

Don't mean to make this sound more sinister than it is, but your husband sounds extremely manipulative and controlling - it's all on his terms . Is it just furniture he's like this with ?

SlightlySuperiorPeasant · 13/10/2012 21:19

Knew that would crop up. Thanks for checking but no, he's usually very laid back. He just has issues with furniture and is possibly also in denial about the baby. 'Tis hugely annoying though.

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Inertia · 13/10/2012 21:55

Ok, fair enough. He needs to start doing what you both agree needs doing though, not what he fancies. The baby's room is the urgent priority.

QuickQuickSloe · 13/10/2012 22:06

My husband put off doing the baby's room until a couple of days before he born, but developed a bizarre obsession with cultivating the perfect lawn. He would be in the bloody garden every evening and all weekend. I think he was in total denial about our DS's arrival! He can't explain his behaviour except that it must have been his version of nesting.

DS is 14 months now, and the lawn looks shite again Grin

IneedAsockamnesty · 13/10/2012 22:06

im guessing you have access to joint funds? if so give him 10 days to do the babys room,if its not done hire someone

DontmindifIdo · 13/10/2012 22:11

Oh no, not 10 days, give him until the day before the baby's due date, he's had 9 months. Not unreasonable to read him the riot act about this.

IneedAsockamnesty · 13/10/2012 22:15

shit the bed i just realised your 39wks sorry i read that as 29.

change of plan,give him 24 hours

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