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AIBU?

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Accidently upset another SEN mum in school AIBU?

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chobbler · 12/10/2012 18:33

DD's SENCO recommended a few computer games to help at school. I'm not one for spending tons on these things so did an eBay trip :) I was saying to the other mum in DD's 'masterclass' about them and she appears to have also been bidding on them. I have apologised, as I didn't know it was her, and offered to share the games, as there are 3 different ones but she is having none of it. she has a bee in her bonnet over my outbidding her and is very happy to keep mentioning it to anyone who will listen.

DD has come back from masterclass today upset as other mum's DS has said he hasn't got a game to use at home because we stole them from his mum.

AIBU to want to punch her in the face and whack her with my sticks? I apologised and I've offered to share why can't she just drop it.

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notactuallyme · 12/10/2012 21:44

Ok, fair enough if a direct quote and not an opinion!

TandB · 12/10/2012 22:13

YABVVVVU

No-one should ever be allowed to beat anyone else on ebay. Particularly not if you are the person who has beaten me by £1 on four separate batches of Tots Bots bamboozle nappies when I am massively short for DS2 now that he is at nursery. And I know there is no way of knowing if it is the same person on all four batches but I don't care - in my mind it is one person and they are ebay stalking me and depriving my poor, sad DS2 of nice soft stuff for his bum.

You should be ashamed of yourself, OP. In fact it was probably you wot stole the nappies off me too. Boo. Hiss.

PS: You are obviously not being unreasonable!

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chobbler · 14/10/2012 23:16

RFLMAO @ kungfupannda sorry but nappy days very very much been and gone. Now One direction printed pants and you will have a fight on your hands

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aldiwhore · 14/10/2012 23:21

You say she is a pillar of the community, don't be intimidated by THAT... and actually, with your volunteer work I think that about makes you even in the 'community hit parade' if not more pillarly!

HecateLarpo · 15/10/2012 08:01

She's being bloody ridiculous. Just laugh at her, she deserves not one moment of concern from you.

Spitting out her dummy cos you bid on the same thing on ebay and won it. she is a bloody fool.

I wouldn't have ruddy apologised. The very best she would have got would have been "oh well, that's the nature of ebay. Some you win, some you lose. Hopefully you'll win the next lot."

And don't worry about her bitching about it - anyone who isn't as bonkers as her will think her utterly ridiculous.

WelshMaenad · 15/10/2012 08:06

Ha, kungfupanda, have you tried the Facebook selling groups? I, for example, am selling three old style bamboozles for super cheap.

TandB · 15/10/2012 08:17

Nope. Don't believe you, OP, you nappy-thieving harpy.

Welsh - I have finally managed to get some, but I had to go for a massive batch - about twice the number I needed - so will be selling some myself!

alienreflux · 15/10/2012 09:14

you must know YANBU. She's clearly a lunatic, don't think about it for one more minute, if the bitchy comments keep coming back via your kids, say something, like 'this is getting silly now, you're upsetting my children, because i won an on line auction, can you stop with the weirdness now?'

MrsRajeshKoothrappali · 15/10/2012 09:40

Ah, she's mad!

If she mentions it again say (in front of people): "Do you not know how ebay works? The highest bidder wins."

I snipe too, that's the way to do it!

Quadrangle · 15/10/2012 09:44

Thing is presumably she had entered the maximum bid she was prepared to pay and then the snipe you did happened to be more than that. If she had entered a higher maximum she was prepared to pay then your snipe wouldn't have outbid her. (If I am understanding correctly, I don't use ebay much.)

Quadrangle · 15/10/2012 09:46

It's dreadful that she told her son that you stole the games from them. Your poor dd being told that.

HecateLarpo · 15/10/2012 09:50

I can't believe she said you stole them!

I wouldn't let that go, tbh. That has the potential to go all chinese whispers on you, and before you know it, you'll have climbed in through the kitchen window, coshed her and made off with the silver!

Quadrangle · 15/10/2012 09:53

Yes i think you should speak to her about that, or else speak to the school and ask that the children who were there are put right about it. Not nice for your dd to have someone saying her mum stole from someone.

Pixieonthemoor · 15/10/2012 09:58

Do you have a friend/person in the class who is a bit of a gossip? I would relay all the straight facts to her and let her do her thing. You don't want this utter bitch casting aspersions on you and I am so that she thought it right to tell her son such a nasty (not to mention preposterous) thing. What a cow!!

DozyDuck · 15/10/2012 10:04

Once me and my mum were bidding like crazy for a present for DS for his birthday... Against each other! We didn't have a clue! And that's my own mother! How were you supposed to know you were bidding against someone you know? How strange of her

YellowDinosaur · 15/10/2012 10:05

She is seriously unhinged. You put in the highest bid and you won. End of it.

A friend and I bought a lot of baby stuff on Ebay when our sons were small. We knew each others user names and agreed that to avoid pushing prices up on something we both wanted that if the other had already placed a bid that the item was off limits. But this was agreed between both of us in advance. It wouldn't even cross my mind that the item was mine until I had won the auction or that I had any greater right to win than her.

You were only being unreasonable by offering her some of the games! The correct response would have been 'oh well better luck next time!' If she continues in this manner I'd be having words with her.

YellowDinosaur · 15/10/2012 10:06

Actually pixie's idea is spot on. Do that.

dysfunctionalme · 15/10/2012 10:36

She is completely bonkers and I think you can be glad if you have offended her to the point where she will not speak to you again. No contact sounds perfect.

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chobbler · 16/10/2012 12:10

Thank you everyone didn't think it was me :) (I doubt myself most days, it's the brain injury I'm afraid) I've taken your comments on board and have decided she is nuts, we will stick to pleasantries if pushed.

As for the software

I have openly offered a borrow of the demo software that came in the box (you must have CD to run it and it's copy protected so I see no harm) to all in the masterclass group DD is in so they can see if it is worth their while purchasing.

I have also not hidden the fact I got it on eBay or that it is second hand. And I have done it through the SENCO so the nutter can snipe all she likes. I have also told the SENCO what has happened so she can keep the little sodbox the other child away from DD if it kicks off.

If she carries on about it she will look even more of a loon than she already does. DD has already bounced back from the thievery slur and is openly offering the software demo CD to the other kids in her group.

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chobbler · 16/10/2012 12:18

@ quadrangle- exactly how it works. I only ever put in my max bid about 2 minutes before. But it is the max I will pay and if someone else wants to pay more for it let them. If her max was higher I would have raised her price to my max plus 10p.

I have blocked her from bidding on any of my items on my business as she now knows my ID and she is showing stalker tendencies after all .

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