Note in Lieu.

[onceortwice]

OK, OK, yes, this should be in SN or SEN, but AIBU gets far more traffic

DS has been given a note in Lieu, not a statement.

What does that mean? As far as I can see, bugger all...

HE for SEN is extremely difficult even with help. You need to ensure that any help you hire has experience of working in sen and in your particular needs. This can be tricky.
I HE my eldest ds for over 2 years at primary and for over a year at secondary. I wouldn't do it again.

We're extremely fortunate in that we had a nanny who is extremely well versed in DS's needs happens to have 2 days free. It's exceptional, but I'm ceasing the moment. Tutors... there are some specialist site we have used before but, again, will probably go back to what we had previously.

I would do anything rather than send my child to a situation in which they did not feel happy / comfortable but equally struggled to tell me about.

I felt like that as a child and I will not do it to my child.

And... I like museums and days out. For the short / medium term... this is good.

You have a plan!

Do you think there would be any point in spending some time searching round for an ideal school whilst DS is being HE?
I agree with ihearsounds, it can get very very hard-I found it much harder to HE once DS had been to school than it had been simply to have him at home as a pre-schooler, although that was more due to him having been totally F'ed up by that time, I think. By the time your DS is 8 or 9, you might feel that school would be an option, and if you had a good one waiting in the wings, you would have a 'safety net' if needed.

I took a radical approach to finding the right school (and weeding out the ones that wouldn't be right), which I can tell you about by Pm if you're interested (to write it on here would out me, which I don't want).

Have PM'ed you

DS is ill with stress again today . Not sure I'll send him back at all.