to end my marriage because of dh's annoying cough

[Northernlurkerisbehindyouboo]

Ok - well that might be a bit too far but it so ANNNOYING. He's coughing roughly every three minutes with a hoarse bark seal thing PLUS a wheeze (he's asthmatic).
I have ordered suggested that he might want to see a doctor. He says 'no, it's getting better' - which it may be but it's shredding my nerves atm. I know he can't help it but tbh every time he coughs I want to scream!

I am having two teeth out on Friday. I will need to rest and recover - if he's still doing the dying seal thing I there will be trouble ahead! When I was leaving for work this morning I actually thought 'hurrah I'm getting away from the cough'

So AIBU to be at my wits end?

There's lots of whooping cough going around this year - that can last for a long time.

And in adults you don't get the characteristic whoop sound when you cough. The cough is there during the day but gets worse at niht, can't remember the rest of the telltale symptoms but google whooping cough inadults and should be easy to see.

if when he goes to the doctors tell him to ask his doc about WC explicitly though - and be prepared to list out how his symptoms fit those foradul WC. It has been getting missed lots in the last few years particularly in adults as once vaccination was brought in it disappeared for a while, lots of new doctors came through with no experience of it and a belief that it had been pretty much got rid of. But they are now realising the vaccine doesn't give lifelong protection and lots of resistant coughs that in the past you would just have been told it's a cough, can't be too bad as your chest sounds ok - those were probably WC. Might be a bit more awareness this year as it's even made the general news given the number of babies that have caught it but there's still apparently a lack of recognition of the adult symptoms.

Good luck in getting him to the gp - can you threaten him by saying if he doesn't go now you'll ring up PIL tonight for their advice?

I suspect dd1 had whooping cough in the spring so yes I have mentioned that. Dh is in so much trouble now - I went up to get him two fresh inhalers last night and the brown one was issued in July last year! So the riot act was read..........
There's no chance of getting him to the GP today. He's really busy with work. Will insist for Friday/Monday though.

I just finished a treatment of antibiotics for a cough I thought was "getting better." DH threatened me to go to the Dr "or else", despite my protests that they wouldn't do anything to treat it (usually you have to be near death to get any antibiotic prescriptions from my GP...). Turns out I had mild pneumonia.

Tell your H to get to the doctor!

Try to get him into the routine of doing the brown inhaler before he brushes his teeth (that's what I do!) that way he remembers to puff twice a day and cleans any residue out of his mouth afterwards, avoiding thrush. Depending on how often he uses it/how many puffs a day. he should probably be getting a repeat prescription every couple of months - mine has 200 puffs in it, 4 puffs a day - 50 days worth!

In the mean time, he definitely needs to be checked out. One thing that might help is elevating the head of the bed on bricks or books, just a few inches. This helps with coughing at night.

If your child has an asthma cough please be as sympathetic as you can muster

So I should stop making him sit in the coughing corner throwing things at him? Now I know where I've went wrong!

Wasn't there a campaign recently, for those with persistent coughs to visit their GP? I forget what it was for.

Crikey my husband snores like a freight train and I'm ready to give him the boot too so I totally get that!!

My GP told me when I get like this to double my medication ie 4 puffs twice a day of the brown one instead of 2 puffs twice a day. Also to use the blue one as often as needed, so maybe 4 puffs every couple of hours.

Having asthma and a cold is pretty crap - I wash my hands all the time (a bit OCD!) to get an viruses etc off them so that I don't develop a cold, as it then turns into the horrendous cough you have described your dh as having.

It also sounds as though he needs a simple linctus to calm down the coughing, and maybe some honey in hot water with some fresh lemon (manuka honey if possible - I got some cheap from Aldi).

Or maybe just book a hotel room for a couple of nights - up to you to decide who gets to stay at home

Oh yes - all inhalers have a use by date on the metal canister, so best to check the date on that.

I think he really needs to get a bit more on top of looking after himself. Has he been to see the asthma nurse recently?

I had a cough like that for weeks. I was losing sleep and so was DH. I had doubled my brown inhaler dose but it wasn't doing anything. Eventually I realised it had almost run out but I hadn't noticed as I always did it last thing at night and wasn't paying enough attention. I got a new one and it cleared up almost overnight. I felt such a fool for not doing something about it earlier. Your DH really has to get better with his brown inhaler!

The cough is a symptom of uncontrolled asthma with the narrowing of his airways. He should at the very least be taking double his regular dose of brown inhaler and the blue one 4 hourly . If it persists he may need oral steroids.
Tell him to man up. It is not just him that is suffering.

If his technique is poor with his regular inhalers ask his GP for a spacing device

With colder weather us asthmatics battle more. I feel for my husband and sleep in the guestroom often, as my coughing keeps him up at night. I am quite severe and on steroids (prednisolone) often.

I am self conscious about my coughing and would get stressed (which would exacerbate my asthma!) were he not tolerant of it, I hate being a bother.

(1) Get him to use his brown inhaler every day, whether he is feeling good or not.

(2) When he is coughing, he should sit up. I often sleep sitting up. Not ideal but helps with the coughing.