to send my son to live with his dad?

[mummypig189]

My four year old may have whooping cough,
cough started yesterday went to docs today.who said its a.possibility and prescribed anti-b.
Now i gave birth to ds3 a week ago and to say.im.terrified. In case he catches.it is.an understatment i also.have ds2 who.was 2 in sept.

Wibu if i sent my son to live with hos dad.for as long as he is infectious?
Obviously i want to be there for him and he o.ly ever wants me when he is ill so it would be hrd to leave him,but im. So.scared for mainly ds3, he is so tiny and couldnt imagine him being as ill.as.he would.be.with wc.
But im left feeling shit because im lea ing my boy alone.when he is.poorly

Help.me please

How long are they infectious for?

Apoligies for typos on my phone

No idea, if anyone can give me some advice on wc that would be great

It sounds like a sensible idea, but I suppose it depends how upset DS would be with it. Could you tell him he is going on holiday to daddies for a few days?

ok. did a bit of googling

there's this

and this

seems they are most infectious for the first 3 weeks and it lasts for up to 3 months

and here, about infants

more about infants

You need to talk to your gp. obviously you don't want to send your little boy to stay with his dad when he's ill, but equally, if there is a risk to the newborn that can't be managed effectively with infection control procedures, you have to talk about that possibility.

Google is your friend and your foe. You can read enough to give you some info and enough to scare you to death. Take what you read as your starting point when getting proper medical advice.

I don't mean there's anything wrong with his dad, or he's not a capable parent, btw, I just meant in relation to what you said about how your child feels.

Will he stay with his dad when ill. If so it sounds like a good idea.

However I would try and keep the children separate

I have just googled it and apparently it would be for about 5 days while they have the antibiotics. Also siblings can be immunised against it, but not sure if a week is too young for that. Ring your GP or NHS direct and ask their advice. Hope you are all ok. My DS has had it a few times, it's horrible!

Does.any one.know. If i had the vaccination if i would pass on any immunity because im bf?

click here

apparently not. Scroll down to "Does breastfeeding protect my baby from whooping cough?"

and here

it seems there is no evidence to suggest that is effective.

When you see your GP, you can ask them

I would. He is his dad. He will still have a parent taking care of him. I would be worried too . Mine are all older now but if this had happened whn mine were babies I would probably have asked the inlaws to have the poorly dc.

He won't be alone, and you would be doing the right thing for your family. Don't let yourself feel guilty :)

I was sent to my nan when I got it, my tiny sister was a few weeks old. I was 4 and although I remember it very clearly I also remember the reason why and I don't have any bad feelings to my parents. not on that occasion anyway

Also, did you have the WC jab in pg because that could very well be a factor in reducing risk to the new baby?

I think it would be a sensible precaution if it's logistically doable.

www.nhs.uk/conditions/whooping-cough/pages/introduction.aspx

Hope he's okay and your little ones escape.

I would, ds caught whooping cough at six weeks it was very scary. My others had been immunised so didn't get it so assume he caught it from the school run. Knowing how infectious it was for him, I'd definitely get his Dad to care for ds. I think he will no longer be infectious once he's taken the antibiotics from what I remember (ds is nearly 18 now)

You have my sympathies, my DH caught it off his DD in the Spring. She came to stay with us! DD2 and DS did not catch it, neither did I despite sleeping in the same bed as DH.

It was terrible for him, but his DD (16) had a much milder version.

I think it is probably the right thing to do, to put your mind at rest at the very least, you must be tired and stressed, bless you. As long as DS and exDP are ok with it and he will be looked after- he will probably enjoy it. Kids often feel "special" even if what you are making them do is a necessity!

I feel for you. My dd9 has got whooping cough. The coughing is relentless at times. It makes her sick.
She is back at school now but is still very tired.
We think we have another 60 days to go.