To change my OH's routine for my sake?

[Boomerwang]

My OH is a chef and works from about 2-12pm, including travelling time.

I do not work. We have a 7 month old baby, which I look after on my own when he is at work. We share equally when he has a day off.

He often stays up til 3-4am after coming home from work and falls asleep on the sofa. I get up at 5-6am when the baby wakes me. OH doesn't get up until about 1pm, just before it's time to go to work.

I go to bed at around 10-11pm but I'm still tired sometimes if I've not slept well and would love a nap before OH goes to work while he looks after the baby. The baby doesn't sleep more than 10 minutes about 4 times in the day.

WIBU to ask him to go to bed earlier and wake up earlier so that he can look after the baby for an hour or so before going to work? I'm asking here first because I want to know if I'm being selfish. I have a feeling that I am, because he works hard, and he has trouble sleeping too, but would asking him to go to bed by 2am and get up at 12 be ok or not?

YANBU! My DH is a chef too and works longer shifts than yours starts at 12pm most days out of the house by 11am and not back until 12.30am. He still gets up and makes our 2 older dcs breakfast and packed lunches and the smallest as well on nursery days and takes them to school most mornings. I work 21/2 days a week but even if I was a SAHM I would expect him to do this, if he stayed in bed the kids wouldn't see him at all for 5 days a week. I read your OP to him and he thinks your OH is taking the piss.