I'm at the end of my tether now, mostly at my younger, 15 yo sister, but also at my parents.
There's a 5 year age gap between my sister and I, so I have become accustomed to having my things "borrowed" if I didn't -hide them- put them away. We share a room but I'm looking to move out when I've finished college.
In the past couple of years my sister has become more and more interested in clothes and makeup and things like that, so I've been letting her borrow my clothes and have been buying her little makeup things and letting her have stuff I no longer use. Lately she's been showing no respect to my stuff. Examples include:
- Borrowing a pair of my jeans. A pair she knows I love and I bought with my own money when I was 14 and have kept in almost perfect condition for the past 6 years. She borrowed them and had her period in them. Twice. The second time it happened she folded them and put them in my drawer. I didn't notice the blood until I was putting them on. The jeans are a bit long and due to her treading on them the hem has become discoloured and ripped. She sits cross legged and has burst the inner thigh seams and is upset because I'm refusing to fix them.
- I love collecting makeup and use my money to buy it. I saved up for a couple of weeks to buy to eyeshadow palettes I wanted. I'd had them a week. One palette had the colours gouged out because she used it to draw, the other went missing, turned up in her bag with a couple of the pans empty because she had dropped it.
- A pair of denim military style boots that were a gift from my mother have been borrowed and now smell of damp and have been scraped and scuffed.
- A top I bought when I was in York, six hours from where I live, has been stretched, stained and has holes in.
- She borrows my mac coat and leaves the bum and the cuffs dirty and the coat creased due to it being left on the floor when wet.
- I had an mp3 player in high school, it was quite expensive and I kept it in great condition and with the original ear phones for four years. She took it, deleted a lot of my music, broke the earphones then lost it. Within 2 weeks.
I've spoken to her and it hasn't worked so I've asked my parents to have a word. They said she shouldn't treat my stuff so badly. They then said to me that it's my fault for letting her use them and what do I expect and I shouldn't leave my stuff out, which I don't. Problem is, I'm out of the house a lot during the day and even though I've told her she can't borrow anything and asked my parents to make sure she doesn't, I'm still coming home to ripped clothes and wrecked makeup.
AIBU to throw all my stuff in the bin, trash her belongings and the my parents' belongings, then throttle all three of them?
Obviously I am. Any advice on how to deal with this situation?
