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Parking thread with a difference

65 replies

Gentleness · 08/10/2012 14:12

Ok, I get that there are people on here who think Parent&Child spaces are loads of cobblers, but they do exist so let's just leave that debate to one side...

Saw something in the P&C row of parking today that stunned me. I was waiting for a space (2 toddlers, spd is agony today and I needed essentials so happy to wait for an easier time dealing with lifting & strapping them in etc). Another car was waiting too, arrived a bit after me.

Two women, with one toddler, were having a long conversation by one of their cars, aware of the cars waiting but carrying on. After about 5 minutes this was mildly irritating but I was more concerned about my hips than wasting time. Anyway - one walked off with the toddler to her car and sorted the lifting, strapping, packing etc while the other turned to her car, also in a P&C space and started on her trolley.

None of her stuff was bagged up - she had a pile of new carrier bags and proceeded to pack a trolley FULL into the bags and then put them in the car at about half the speed I'd do it! By the time I'd parked in the first space, unpacked 2 toddlers, potty, nappy bag, bag of shopping bags, hand bag, put them all down again because one toddler was trying to wipe copious amounts of snot on me, sorted him and got organised to walk to the trolleys again, she was less than half way through packing up her trolley. No child and no child seat in the car. The face on the man waiting behind me was picturesque - he must have been waiting getting on for 10 minutes by then. I tried to give him a commiseratory smile but it's a hard expression to pull off.

How weird is that? Would you think that was weird? It was drizzling too, heavy enough for us to be really damp by the time we got to the trolleys. There was no lack of parking spaces equally near the store, normal ones and disabled ones. What was she thinking? And why not at least get your bags packed under shelter in in the store? It was very odd. Odd enough that I feel like I must have missed some really obvious explanation.

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cheekydevil · 08/10/2012 17:32

Gentleness are you aware that you can get a Blue Badge if you suffer with cronic SPD that is not going away if you need aid to walk?

Chopstheduck · 08/10/2012 17:35

I really don't get what is so weird about packing the trolley at the car - I'd do it all the time if I could, I often do, and it means I am holding up a disabled bay Shock

It's easier! You pay, throw all the shopping in the trolley, so not holding people up at the checkout, and then pack it all neatly and carefully into the car. I have HUGE shopping bags in the car, that I can barely lift once full. I wouldn't be able to even get one out of the trolley if I packed it in the trolley, or fit more than one in there.

I agree though, she was prob waiting for someone to come back with the baby.

Chopstheduck · 08/10/2012 17:36

'See - there's extra information behind every story'

I wonder why you didn't think that though, when you saw the lady packing her car. She may have a baby in the supermarket, she may have ocd issues, anything!

AitchDee · 08/10/2012 17:39

You carried a potty around the supermarket with you?

bizarre

ajandjjmum · 08/10/2012 17:41

Off topic, but I saw a woman parking in a P & C place a couple of weeks ago, and as I walking in with her very politely said 'are you aware you've parked in a P & C place?' I know I was polite, because I was reluctant to say anything (didn't actually affect me!)
She actually stuck her fingers in her ears and walking off sharply singing to herself, as I might have done when I was 5! Kept smiling about it all day!

TidyGOLDDancer · 08/10/2012 17:49

Never ever go off topic when discussing anything near to P&C spaces. It gets insane.

Gentleness · 08/10/2012 17:50

Thanks cheekydevil - I looked into that when I got spd in my last pregnancy thinking there might be something like a temporary badge, but there wasn't and this is likely to go within 6mo of the birth. Some days are hideous but it isn't all the time.

Keith - I have never seen that at our local Aldi - I must have been going at the wrong times!

Chops - do read carefully - that's exactly what I was asking for! The last sentence gives the clue.

Aitch - travel potty (potette) - what did you do when potty training your kids? Poor ds1 was basically incontinent yesterday having been dry for weeks.

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MrsKeithRichards · 08/10/2012 17:59

But what do you do with a travel potty? Let them do their business in the middle of the shop?

I've never came across anyone using them and I potty trained 4 years ago!

MrsKeithRichards · 08/10/2012 17:59

I potty trained my son, not myself. I've been dry for years now

LadyBeagleEyes · 08/10/2012 18:00

Wasn't there a thread the other day where the Op did just that MrsK?

Softlysoftly · 08/10/2012 18:03

This thread should derail into - you would let your child pee/poo in the middle of the aisle as I'm choosing my veg Shock

AitchDee · 08/10/2012 18:03

I know this might be surprising, and maybe I am ahead of my time in doing this (I don't think so) but I just sat my children on the toilet when they needed to go.

Try it. Cut out the middle man.

MrsKeithRichards · 08/10/2012 18:04

Is that what your meant to do?

MrsKeithRichards · 08/10/2012 18:06

That's what I done aitch no new fangled gadgets here just pants and the bog.

I'm lazy and tight.

LadyBeagleEyes · 08/10/2012 18:11

I can't remember ds's potty training in any detail he's 17 now.
I do know I never needed a potty in the supermarket.
Or for that matter a P & C parking space.
Be honest. I'm really old aren't I?
And a rubbish mother.

Gentleness · 08/10/2012 18:12

Yes! If you are physically able to get them to the toilet in time! If not, I think weeing into a travel potty (with a removable sealable bag) is better than letting the wee cascade out of the trolley all over the floor. Having dealt with fountains all day yesterday (mopping it all up is probably why the spd has flared), the thought of THAT happening in the fruit aisle was just horrifying... Believe me, it was a rock and a hard place! Thanks be, ds1 was back to normal weeing procedure today and the precautionary potty was unnecessary.

Oh, and well done MrsKeith on your potty training! Wink

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Softlysoftly · 08/10/2012 18:12

Yes LBE I hope you saved up for therapy Grin

Softlysoftly · 08/10/2012 18:14

But wouldn't you just sit them on the loo as you went in so you know it's not likely to happen round the shop?

Also those padded pants are good for reducing streams to damp clothes learnt the hard way after the slide/waterfall/other people's children incident

PickledFanjoCat · 08/10/2012 18:17

They pee in it in the trolley? Ive never seen that.

But I've never potty trained an infant.

DizzyHoneyBee · 08/10/2012 18:18

It's annoying, but go and park somewhere else.

Gentleness · 08/10/2012 18:26

Yeah - did the loo on the way in, but yesterday's wee-fest freaked me out a bit. It was unstoppable and unpredictable, sitting on chairs, sitting on my knee, running around with his friends - all lovely stuff! And way more frequent and voluminous than normal. I was worried it was some kind of infection but I think he was probably just upset because his dad has just gone away on business for a week and he really wanted to go with him Sad. I didn't know how it was going to play out today but my imagination was running riot!

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AitchDee · 08/10/2012 18:27

So you let him pee/poo in the middle of the shop?

I am feeling a sense of deja vu

nightowlmostly · 08/10/2012 18:28

No the point of the OP, but I HATE people waiting for me to vacate a space. They always stop and wait when I've just got back with all my shopping and baby, and it is obviously going to take me a little while to pack up the car. Fair enough if I'm actually ready to go, but it pisses me off having people waiting and watching my every move. Maybe she felt the same OP, and just took her sweet time about it!

ihearsounds · 08/10/2012 18:31

Is this a wind up? Really potty training in the supermarket? That is just minging.
Ladybeagle, I must also be an older rotten mother. Never had p&c spaces, and never needed a potty in the supermarket.

Op have you heard that supermarkets deliver? Sit in the comfort of your own home, so no need to wait for a p&c space, and no need to gross out other shoppers with potty training in the aisles.

Gentleness · 08/10/2012 18:34

? No - didn't I already say there was no need in the end? But what do you suggest I should have done if he'd had the urge again (or worse, just started!) given I could only walk at snail's pace and the food section is at the other end of the store from the loos? Let it swoosh out and drip where it would? Or use a peg? There's "letting him" and choosing the lesser of two evils.

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