...to feel like a shit Mum because DS2 has been referred for speech therapy too?

[AnnIonicIsoTronic]

DS1 I self-referred to SALT. He was a slow starter, hesitant talker, obvious problems with sounds.

But DS2 is my talking child. I honestly haven't spotted a problem. Teacher suggested he is referred for his lisp (mispronounced 's' sounds) - which is a fair point - but I thought it was developmentally normal for a just 4 year old.

Feeling culpable now. Remembering all the times I said 'go play by yourself, DS2' - where maybe I should have been down there on the floor with him playing with his cars.

sigh

1 is bad luck & 2 is a pattern?

Don't blame yourself. I did everything by the book and above and beyond the book with DS, read and spoke to him all the time, as did DH. But he has struggled with making certain sounds so has had speech therapy input.

Don't worry NotFrazzled, that's normal for her age. Copy the words back to her but don't ask her to copy you!

People do make crap comments. Ones I've had in the last few weeks from friends and family about DD2 include "well, we just talk so much to them you see, have you tried that?", "oh, [older sibling] just talks to him ALL THE TIME, they're just SO CUTE" (this feels insulting to DD1!), "maybe you should give up work", "maybe you don't give her enough attention and she'd do better at nursery".

Grrr.

On the lisp my salt friend says is fine unless not resolved by 6/7.

Thanks Lottapianos! Sorry for hijack.

Yes, Dozer, I really hate the 'we talk to them all the time" comment. I always want to reply "so you mean I shouldn't have locked them in the cupboard under the stairs, a la Harry Potter."