13 yr old daughter has been taken by her father for weekend and says shes not coming back

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Help, he messes with her head, he has no PR. bad things happen when he has her, he is not consistant, only sees her when it suits him, should i call police, social services? i told him if she not back by 8.45 im calling police.

Christ, sorry OP, just read a few more recent posts and realised how serious this could be for you. Didn't mean to make light of it, was just trying to cheer you up, sorry

Hope you are ok.

op not enough info.

But based on info given, if you think she is in immediate danger call the police.

If not, she is 13,and you should take a wee step back and figure out how best to handle the situation so this doesn't totally screw up your relationship with her.

called 101 police, they say he has pr therefore there is nothing they can do, he does not have pr, at least they are going to his property to carry out a welfare check, as far as i know, they are not there, i am worried because if they not there then where are they.

What makes you think they are not there?

Did you actually speak to your dd?

HAVE YOU SPOKEN TO YOUR DAUGHTER it is really hard to help if you wont answer questions

thanks for trying to cheer me up touchof insanity, perhaps i should just wait for her to want to come home, its just she has been through a lot with her separated parents warring and i fear for her safety, she has been excluded from school and is not in a good place, it has taken so long for her to be given any help professionally and that is still in the process of being set up, its all frustrating and her dad does not help, she says she loves him more than anything and yet he has let her down so much, i would just like to know she is safe for now

no i have not spoken to her, she does not have her phone and he is not answering, her big brother is there and says he has not seen them all day

So who actually told you she wasn't coming home?

how do you know they are not comming home?

How can the police say he has PR?

Why would you let them go if he is so awful?

I'm sure her brother will look out for her. Try not to worry too much.

he is her dad and she needs her dad, well i hoped he would talk to her as she is hanging out with older girls and going out straight from school. i know because he sent a txt to me, he was abusive to me but i hope he do right for them

Have you heard anything from anyone yet?

no, trying not to worry

Leave it til the morning now, then get in contact, and find out what's going on, and see if she is ok. try not worry, easier said than done I know.

Did the police not contact you back either?

It is. A bit confusing. if she is excluded is she at home or been referred to sme kind of pupil referral? We're CAMHS involved after overdose? Do you have aname you can call psychologist ?
Tomorrow morning cal her gp and the people she been referred to CAMHS and educational welfare officer get them to check on her and dad and find out what is going on .

Will he take her to school today?

What happened op?