To be a little surprised as what the MW just said?

[bonzo77]

In hospital following a little bleed at 27 weeks. Possibly brought on by shagging on Thursday. So I mentioned we might give it a miss till baby is a bit nearer term as i cant deal with the stress. Otherwise very sweet MW said I shouldn't starve my DH, he might go elsewhere! I honestly doubt it!

How innapropriate, I'd have replied with.

Well if he does he obviously wasn't dh material so it will have done me a favour.

This is dc2. I know about health visitors my last one came in, played with my cat and had a quick look at my reasonably tidy house and sleeping baby and said she couldn't imagine there were any problems, this looks lovely. Where did I get the cat? And left. Never saw her again!

It sounds llike a joke to me.

She sounds like my GP, who when I went to consult her in tears about dd's failure to thrive told me sternly that my first concern should be to go into hospital to have my fanjoy re-stitched "because the best gift you can give your little girl is a father"

Put in a complaint. Women like her need bringing up to date.

Fake a misogynistic joke...therefore...unacceptable.

I was worried about my baby being big (I am 39 weeks now) & my midwife told me massive"don't over eat!" wtf lol
My last baby was 8lbs 15 & she was really long! my first was 8lbs 2 & also long so i really don't think food comes into it.

Christ!! that was unprofessional of her.
Her concern should be for the safety/health of your unborn child and not whether your other half is getting enough sex.

She probably was joking but it's in bad taste.

I hope you are ok OP, what a stupid thing for your midwife to say!!

fertility specialists also say stupid things, before my DP's sperm test she said to us "you should avoid ummm.... ummmm... um (blush) ummmm "being together" for 3 days before the test" my DP said do you mean we shouldn't have sex? and the fertility specialst blushed and said yes, then DP said I assume I should also avoid masturbation? she was very very flush. It was crazy that a person who's job it is to try to help people get pregnant couldn't talk about sex.

monkey daft isn't it, ds1 was 11lb 2 and I'd spent most of the pg in hospital on a drip because I couldn't keep anything down!

moomin I put different weight on with each pregnancy (less with my larger baby) & still had big un's.
some times midwives are a little clueless ;)

Jesus. It was a day of it. Said MW had some trouble getting a trace as baby very active and has lots of space so said I should press a finger on the sensor as it can help. It didn't an another came in, sorted it and told me off for fiddling and shouted at me to relax. I told her I was following instructions and her grabbing at my hand was not relaxing. Stupid fucking cow. Then when she was discharging me told me to stop worrying as it would make things worse. I can't be arsed to complain, I've got a lot on and better things to do. But I have resolved to have as little contact with MWs as possible now. Had considered a vbac, but will now be pushing for ELCS at 39 weeks. And for early discharge after. Physically I now think I'm fine but am knackered and very emotional.

Some years ago I had a prolapse of the uterus and had surgery. The consultant came round afterwards and I had a list of things to ask him along the lines of 'how long before I can do x y z' - swimming, driving, that kind of thing. I got to the last thing and blushing, (unbelievably really considering how many times he's looked up there and had his hand up there), I said 'and how about sex?'.

His response was 'Not today thanks I've got a full clinic!'

Pressed send too soon.

Good luck Bonzo.