DH says DS has to wait for the dinoegg to crack

[Kingcyrolophosarus]

why?
We bought him this dinoegg thing. You put it in water and you wait for a day, it cracks as dinosaur expands and then dino gets bigger over a week
DS is desperate to crack it a little bit to see the dino
Why the hell not? It's his toy.
It's causing so much trouble because DS is begging and keeps asking
Dh just getting narked.
Something that should have been a bit of fun has turned into a nightmare

Well I cracked the egg and let DS eat on the log

I think the problem runs deeper, op I think a serious conversation needs to be done to get you and DH back on the same page.

I can't get through to him about how to be with DS
He is never going to get it

I tried to explain til I'm blue in the face

I have counselling tomorrow, lots to discuss

Why did you buy him the egg in the first place? Waiting for the dino to grow slowly and then hatch is the whole point of those toys and he's clearly too little for it.

Sounds like a big chat with your dh is in order, him chatting and you listening as by the sounds of your last post it's just been about you and your opinions and getting him to agree with you. How about trying to understand each other and compromising? Ds should have waited for the egg and I don't blame him for not wanting to eat lunch on a log.

He's had a few of these eggs before, all a bit different, he loves them, but this was slightly different because he couldn't wait to see inside the egg. With the others, the egg disintegrated quickly

Trust me bigwheel, it is not all about me
It's about a little boy whose father doesn't have an ounce of patience, tolerance or understanding about children
A father who is angry and blameful
Selfish, hurtful and at times downright abusive

My counselling tomorrow is my first session at a womens clinic, referred by my GP. As they consider me abused

A father who slept most of the weekend and denied his son the excitement of cracking open a fucking dinosaur egg
A father who moaned when his son wanted to share his picnic on a fucking log

That puts a slightly different light on it. Hope the counselling helps you.

King, maybe you might want to start a thread on Relationships? Mumsnet can offer amazing support to women in crisis situations, and if you are starting counselling tomorrow that online sounding board might be really handy. And relationships is a very supportive place, with lots of other women who've been there - and got out, and through it.

Really sorry you are dealing with this.

YANBU I would've cracked that egg by now and I'm and adult!

Thanks
Perfectstorm, Relationships will definitely tell me to leave him!
Maybe that's what I need to hear
Woke up with blinding migraine, can't decide whether to cancel the counselling appt

I hope you're feeling OK and haven't cancelled it - sounds like you need the support. There's clearly a lot more to this than a disagreement over how to handle a toy dinosaur egg...

Kept the counselling appt, it was really just an assessment, I thought I'd already had that over the phone. But I did babble on a bit, which was helpful
Feeling quite dreadful now
I can't believe this pain in my head