So cross with dh work

[englishpigdog]

AIBU to be totally pissed off that dh's work phoned 13 times and sent a barage of text messages on his day off. We were busy and dh didn't have his phone with him. They needed something he had (not something that only he hass they could of got another one from somewhere very easily) so they apparantly sent some one to our house and made them sit wait for 15 mins in case we came home. Now dh is likely to face a bollocking for being unavailable (even though he doesn't have to be available on his days off). Just want some advice on what he can say to them when they try said bollocking. I am fuming and think he needs to tell them that his day off is his time and to not contact him.

X post - I see he has access to union advice and is prepared to use it if he deems it necessary. Let him deal with it in his own way - perhaps "laid back" means he knows when to pick his battles.

"Next time your DH has a day off, the best you can do is make sure his phone is charged and he has it with him off so he can deal with it when he's working straight away and so it doesn't turn into a mountain his boss doesn't have unrealistic expectations."

Seriously, if you're in a job where you're on call or expected to be contactable 24/7 then this would be fine. If you're not, then it's not. Simple.

Three of my friends work as managers for a store. They get texts, phone calls , emails all the time, even when we're out on the piss.
When my friends came on holiday to visit us in Oz, they still got contacted.

Yanbu and i sympathise as dp gets this! He does have an om call rota so if they call then fine, tho sometimes they call whrn it isnt necessary and they still call whrn he isnt on rota support! Drives me mental and if i answer the phone tho i am polite the tone of my voice givrs away the fact that i am pissed off!

I keep work and home contact details separate - I have a work phone, which gets switched off when I'm not at work. I have work e-mail, which I don't look at when not at work. Makes life a lot more clearly defined.

If it's not getting to your dh, then I guess you have to let it be, but if I were your dh, I would calmly ask the supervisor if they had got confused as it seems they had phoned 13 times on a day off, and this was clearly not appropriate. I'd then say that if the harassment continued, I'd have to take it further, then leave them to ponder on it and see what happened the next time.

hope your husband stands up for himself and nips this in the bud.

without wanting to get into 'crap boss' one upmanship my husbands firm not only called him when i was in labour, but also gave his mobile number to a client so he could ring too!! when he explained to the client that i was in labour, the client replied 'i have no interest in your private life, i need this done'!! i was livid. he also got a dressing down when he got back!! he also missed my uncle's funeral as he knew that would call all the way through.

my husband left this firm, but never managed to change their attitude to days off. we didn't have a holiday together in the 3 and a half years he was there, as he couldn't ever relax as he knew they'd call at some point. awful

" I think so too [that it sounds like borderline harassment] and think dh should put a complaint in about this nob but he doesn't want to as he doesn't let him get under his skin. "
But the issue isn't about whether it gets under DH's skin or not; it is about this supervisor acting unreasonably and, presumably, against company policy. (Because you say it is just the one supervisor - there are presumably others who do not pester DH on his days off.) If your DH does not complain to this man's boss (he must have one), then he (the supervisor) is likely to escalate his harrassment - and it sounds pretty advanced already, sending someone round to your house FFS. And, if he likes to throw his weight around, your DH is not the only one on the receiving end, he is bullying all and sundry. And it may well be getting under their skin.

"I only started this thread because dh thinks I'm making too big a deal out of it ..."
It is a big deal. It's implied in what you say that this supervisor has been doing this for some time, and it is escalating.
"... but I want it nipping in the bud now as I don't want them turning up when they feel like it. I feel dh should go over his head to make sure it doesn't happen again."
I absolutely agree.