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To kick DH...

14 replies

Cherrypieplum · 07/10/2012 05:20

If he suggests taking DD out for a drive as the only way to help me with her?! I've barely slept in a week and apart from less than five minutes of attempting to comfort her that is his only solution. To take a clingy three month old and stick her in a cold car seat in a cold car and waste petrol while she gets pissed off and gets handed back to me in even more of a state?!

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StaceymReadyForNumber3 · 07/10/2012 06:04

YANBU I hope he becomes more help soon and your dd settles. Ds was a nightmare baby but now at 5 yo he's wonderful. So there's the mn classic 'this too shall pass'. Good luck.

NorksAreMessy · 07/10/2012 06:24

Actually, this really was the only thing that worked with my DD when she got herself in a state.
By the time DH and DD got back, I was fast asleep and so was she.

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Cherrypieplum · 07/10/2012 06:58

It doesn't work for my DD unfortunately Norks and he just comes back exasperated with her which means I don't relax as I know what state they come back in.

Thanks Stacey. I could cry I'm so tired. I need to remember it won't last

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HappyHippyChick · 07/10/2012 07:02

Poor you, a couple of mine hated the car too so I know what you mean. Does your DD like going in the buggy. Bundling mine up and taking them for a walk used to help.

Hope you get some sleep soon.

MatchsticksForMyEyes · 07/10/2012 07:05

Both of my DC were like that. I thoroughly recommend the Little Sleephead noise cd. It has noises of household appliances for example the hoover. It really helped both of mine settle. It is 10 pounds.

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Cherrypieplum · 07/10/2012 07:09

She quite likes her buggy but she is cluster feeding terribly at the moment.

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Heartbeep · 07/10/2012 07:10

What does work? Sling, pram, cuddling?
Could your DH do this instead & let you go have a nap?
He maybe just needs some guidance...

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Cherrypieplum · 07/10/2012 07:10

Thanks matchsticks. I have an app on my phone that I forgot about. It used to work at times. I'll try it again.

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Heartbeep · 07/10/2012 07:13

Ask him to take her for a walk. Tell him to walk for a min of x mins (x being the minimum you know your DD will need to settle) & if she's still unsettled then he can bring her back. At least you get a little break.

Redsilk · 07/10/2012 07:28

DS was like this for a full ten months. The only way I could get sleep some mornings was for DH to take him for a ride in the car and he'd fall asleep.

MyLastDuchess · 07/10/2012 07:59

Do you have one of those big birthing/yoga balls? That was the only thing that worked on my DS when he was tiny - sitting on the ball, bouncing up and down and singing used to really calm him down.

DS really was a nightmare until he could crawl. Then suddenly all was ok and he is now a really lovely 2yo who plays independently a lot and is less work than most of my friends' kids who were all much 'easier' as babies. Hope that gives you a little bit of energy to keep going!

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Cherrypieplum · 07/10/2012 09:26

Well she had a good feed and then he got up with her and they went for a drive and did a bit of shopping. I managed about two hours kip. I wouldn't say I feel human but I'm better than I was!!

Must've have been busy as she's gone back ravenous!

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Cherrypieplum · 07/10/2012 09:27

Thanks Duchess! My friends have a similar theory. One lo of my friend was a nightmare baby and is now the most chilled out child ever!

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maddening · 07/10/2012 09:32

Sounds like the 12week growth spurt.

Maybe he can take her out again after lunch so you can have another nap?

Hopefully this should only last a few days fxd

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