To only invite one twin to ds birthday party?

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Ds is turning 5 in a few weeks and he's having a party at home. Due to space at home, I decided to only invite the boys from his class. However there is a pair of twins, boy and girl, so AIBU to only invite the boy and not the girl?

I have twin girls. They've been going to seperate parties all their lives.

No, actually it's not 'quite fair' to discriminate on the basis of gender.

What if half the kids were black, would it 'actually be quite fair' to only invite the white kids so that 'nobody really felt left out'?

Holy autumn I think you are reading into this way too much! Ds is only 5 and he likes to play with boys and specifically asked for all the boys to be invited. I'm not about to lecture him on discrimination!

Ilike that wasn't to you that was to Quint, by all means invite the kids your child is friends with. What I'm objecting to is saying 'I know you love playing with Mary and Jane, but we're going to invite Bob and Fred instead as this is going to be a boys only party because that's quite fair and no-one will really feel left out'.

No do it, I have b b twins and they rearly get invited to the same parties as they are in different classes and have different friends, I like it as it is the only time me and Dh have 2 to 1 time.

My ds can invite 5 people to his party. He wants to invite 5 boys. One of them is part of a b/g twin set. I plan to mention it to their mum before i send the invites. Do you know the parents? Can you have a chat?

This year my DS had a birthday party and invited a boy who has a girl twin.
My DS has never played with the other twin or had anything to do with her over the years they have been at school.
It didn't occur to me in the slightest to invite the girl twin because her brother had been invited.

YANBU there are twins in my family and they never really shared friends

I think it is not much different to any other sibling group really, esp where there are small age gaps. Twins are still siblings. They are separate people with different friends.

I don't see any reason why this should be a problem at all, if you are concerned then have a quiet word with the mother and explain that your DS will only be inviting the boys. At the end of the day she will have the chance to turn down the invite of she wants to. YANBU.