To think that DH should either

[MrsSchadenfreude]

agree to us getting a cleaner, or do a bit of housework during the week, so that we I don't spend all weekend doing it?

DH works from home and says he doesn't want someone in cleaning while he is working. But he also refuses to do any housework at all while he is at home. Don't get me wrong - I know that he is working, but it would be really useful if he could shove a load of washing on while waiting for the kettle to boil, or push a hoover round the hall and put the rubbish out. He says that he is working, not doing housework, and that is that.

I work from home on the odd occasion he is away and get a huge amount done (both work and housework). The house is clean, tidy, the washing is done, and I don't have to spend all weekend trying to sort out the shit pit.

AIBU to whine at him a bit more about this?

And he should be sharing chores equally with you in the evenings/at weekends. If he's not doing that, HIBVVVU.

He could do the housework in the time he would otherwise spend travelling ;-) DH used to work from home and spent all day in his dressing grown. We always knew because when I arrived home with Ds, then aged about 2 he would have wet hair. ie just from the shower. lol. Anyway what I meant to say was even he could manage to get the washing in with one hand whilst brewing a cuppa with the other.

YANBU

Can he not go to the library or a coffee shop for 2 hours a week?

You both work outside the home and why the hell are you the housework fairy?

Does he think he's too good to do his share of keeping his home clean and tidy?

Some people just need a huge slap.

I would divvy up the tasks and say here's your half. Don't care when you do it, but do it. If you choose not you, we're getting a cleaner. Your choice.

to not you. Obviously

YANBU. DH works full time from home and despite a few moans that 'I work full time you know' keeps tight control of the laundry and usually manages to have something simmering on the stove for me and DS when we get in from work/nursery. We had a cleaner until very recently and DH just ensured he didn't have any telephone calls booked in for the two hours she was in the house. To be honest, I think he liked it when she came as it was the one time in the week when he had someone else to talk to!

He does wash the floors and clean the toilets but that is all.

Such a sensible idea - follow his fine example and pick two jobs to do, there are plenty of jobs around the house to pick from - just remember only two just like him otherwise he may get mardy.

I think I would go for...

putting the bins out and hovering the hall

Do let us know which two jobs you would like to pick

Why on earth do you allow someone to criticise you for anything let alone something that he is equally responsible for? This man is meant to love you, make you life easier, nicer.

The more these threads are created, the more I worry for my dc.

If he is working 14 hours a day, I'm guessing he stops long enough for a cuppa and a wee every so often. I don't think it is too much to ask to stick a wash on.

If he is doing a standard 8 hour day then he should be helping during his down time. Can't you just arrange a cleaner and tell him either he allows the cleaner to do his/her job or he does it for them?

Everyone needs a break from the computer screen every 45 mins to an hour for their eyesight, hence one 5 minute break washing in. Lunch half hour hang it out and so on...

I loved working from home, got so many little tasks done during the day without compromising my work.