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To be hurt for being publicly judged by my own brother for going away without my DC (fb related, sorry)

116 replies

MoomieAndFreddie · 05/10/2012 17:32

DH and I are going away for a few days after Xmas to New York. This will probably be the last time we go away minus DC as we are TTC-ing after Xmas. and this was going to be our present to eachother and a last big holiday if you like, before, if we are lucky enough, DC3 comes along. our DC are 3 and 6 and are staying with my DPs in the Cotswolds, my DPs are more than happy to have them, so we will be spending the run up to xmas with the DC and also xmas eve, xmas day and some of boxing day.

Anyway, my brother has posted all over Facebook how "disgusting" and "selfish" we are "leaving the kids at christmas" and how he "can't believe mum and dad have agreed to it" and he thinks we should take them with us.
BTW, the DC have had 2 holidays already this year, this summer, we took them to Lanzarote and Wales.

He hasn't said ANY of this to my face, it has all been via public facebook rants for all our friends and family to see. Its as if he just wants to show me up. He is of course entitled to his opinion on it, but I feel he should tell me privately. He looks down on us anyway as we live in a HA house and are just ordinary, whereas he has a high flying job and a flashy car and nice apartment.

I don't have to explain myself to anyone, but we just don't want to take them on this occasion. And anyway, IMO a long flight followed by lots of walking around shops and sightseeing in the freezing cold NY winter, would not be much fun for them. or us

DB does not even have DC of his own and barely has anything to do with my DC, he is pretty uninterested in them tbh so why they sudden sanctimonious behaviour? Confused

anyway I am hurt and just want to rant I guess., I am quite prepared to be told I am BU for going away sans DC but I really think my DBs behaviour is shitty and U.

OP posts:
armedtotheteeth · 06/10/2012 09:25

Dh and I had a long weekend abroad before dc2 arrived and same again before dc3. We had a great time and so did the dc and the grandparents. Ignore your brother and have fun in New York!

TeeBee · 06/10/2012 09:26

Bloody hell, surely you must respond. I'd say 'Investing in my marriage is more important than investing in bricks'...then show him up for the twat he is.

whois · 06/10/2012 09:27
  1. It's not actually over Christmas
  2. Your kids will love having a treat at granny and granddad
  3. Your brother is a massive twat to post that. I'd call him and ask him about his comments. Say that you are hurt and sad that he cares so little for your relationship.
Pagwatch · 06/10/2012 10:11

Could you post

"thank you for your comments. I would like to say that your advice will be considered and taken on board but posting opinionated guff on Facebook about my private life inclines me to the view that you have the intelligence of a weevil, the empathy of a piranha, the tact of Bernard Manning and the manners of a wet fart.
Perhaps if you had voiced your views to me I could have some respect for you but blabbing like an emotionally incontinent Jeremy Kyle guest forces me to ignore your rambling, uninformed nonsense.'

Pagwatch · 06/10/2012 10:11

I had to nick weevil. It's very apt.

Smeghead · 06/10/2012 10:19

I wouldnt be doing any replies on FB, just ringing him up and asking WTAF he thinks he is doing and fucking dare he post shit like that about me! Why bother with Passive Aggressive when plain old Aggressive will do?!

Smeghead · 06/10/2012 10:19

how dare he..

OrangeandGoldMrsDeVere · 06/10/2012 10:21

Your bro is totes well jell
And a tosser.
Have a nice time

Bunbaker · 06/10/2012 10:24

Why don't you just defriend him.

Thumbwitch · 06/10/2012 10:28

Oh I do like Pag's reply - and happy to have supplied the oh-so-appropriate weevil! Grin

He's an interfering, condescending idiot. Ignore him.

OhCobblers · 06/10/2012 10:38

I would pay good money to see you post Pagwatch's reply (from 10:11:05) On Facebook Grin and no YANBU!

pumpkinsweetie · 06/10/2012 10:51

He sounds very toxic and opinionated!
What business is it off his and why on earth would he plaster such stuff on FB.
Delete him, he is obviously jealous that you have a family yet he only has items.

We all need a break at times and your dc will love spending time at their gps.

flippinada · 06/10/2012 10:55

Yanbu. Your brother sounds like gobshite and spoilt brat. There's a saying when it comes to folk like him - empty vessels make the most noise .

Quote me on that if you like :)

foslady · 06/10/2012 11:35

oh FGS - you have a home! And you only live once - your name is on the deeds is not going to give you and your dh memories......or help keep your marriage healthy - a trip to NY is. What's the point of owning a home if you split up because you can't afford to be happy???
And it's your life, your money - tell him to go do one!

differentnameforthis · 06/10/2012 13:14

There must be more to it - is it because he wanted to see them & they'll be away?

I'm sure he knows where his own parents live!

BookieMonster · 06/10/2012 13:22

Your brother is a twat. Go and have a lovely time, safe in the knowledge that your DC are being spoiled rotten.

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