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to not actually 'get' the whole pink ribbon, wristband, tee shirt business when people are missing.

36 replies

DogsCock · 04/10/2012 10:50

What exactly is it for?

Is it to raise awareness? Because most of these high profile missing children/people have all the media attention anyway.

Where does the money go?

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Leaveitalready · 04/10/2012 10:51

Erm, breast cancer awareness?

OutragedAtThePriceOfFreddos · 04/10/2012 10:51

I think it's for people that feel helpless and want to do something. It can help people cope, and it shows support for the family that is going through something horrific.

DogsCock · 04/10/2012 10:52

Leaveit - not breast cancer awareness, I have a band.

I am talking about speciifically when people go missing. I don't really understand it.

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dysfunctionalme · 04/10/2012 10:55

I thought pink bands were breast cancer too.

I'm guessing that any band/t-shirt etc is a way of keeping them in mind and raising the topic with others

sugarice · 04/10/2012 10:56

Are you referring to April's family asking people to wear something pink?

kotinka · 04/10/2012 10:56

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Sirzy · 04/10/2012 10:58

I have to admit I did wonder the same. I guess it's about showing support for the family, it's not going to change the situation but it shows people are thinking of them.

DogsCock · 04/10/2012 11:00

For April, it is pink ribbon.

I fully understand charities who have a wrist band, one donates to the charity. It raises funds and awareness. But IMO when someone is missing, all we want is for that person to be found, and I cannot understand the logic in wearing, say today a pink ribbon as that won't find April.

I doubt there is a person in the land who doesn't know what has happened to this little mite, so raising awareness by wearing a ribbon won't find her iyswim. Maybe for support, but the family won't need people to be seen wearing a ribbon to know we want her found as much as them.

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mrsminerva · 04/10/2012 11:00

It caters to those who 'want a bit of the action' even though it has nothing to do with them. Ditto celeb mags.

missymoomoomee · 04/10/2012 11:00

You don't have to 'get it', I'm sure if a child close to you went missing then you would do anything to keep it in the public eye, you wouldn't be sitting thinking 'well the papers so I'll just let them handle it', and if it makes those poor parents feel less alone in this for even one second then its more than worth it.

DogsCock · 04/10/2012 11:03

Of course if a child close to me went missing I would want as much awareness as possible, but tbh I am not sure that I would need people to wear a band. The support for this family is overwhelming. One only needs to look at all those volunteers out there day and night joining in the search to know they they are fully supported by people up and down the country.

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Sirzy · 04/10/2012 11:05

But it is in the public eye. The media have provided a lot of coverage (rightly so) a pink ribbon won't increase that.

kotinka · 04/10/2012 11:06

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gordyslovesheep · 04/10/2012 11:07

agree with mrsminerva

dysfunctionalme · 04/10/2012 11:07

Yes this poor child's abduction is very high profile so the pink bands are unlikely to make one jot of difference.

However there are very many missing children who have slipped from the radar and more publicity about them could make a big difference to being found.

Willabywallaby · 04/10/2012 11:08

I'm confused as to why they have chosen pink though, especially since it's breast cancer awareness month.

wasabipeanut · 04/10/2012 11:13

YANBU. It no longer seems to be enough to have feelings, you have to be seen to show them. Nobody watching that poor woman breaking down yesterday can have failed to be touched by it but quietly empathising or shedding a tear at home is no longer sufficient it seems. It's as if feelings of grief and sadness aren't real unless rhey're posted on FB or wrapped in a coloured ribbon.

dysfunctionalme · 04/10/2012 11:31

I agree wasabi. Everyone wants feedback for their every thought...

mrsminerva · 04/10/2012 11:49

wasabi, yes, we seem to live our lives vicariously these days and feed off of others emotions to spice up our own dull lives. Feeling quite cynical about the human animal today Sad Made the mistake of flicking through the Star at the pub this morning.

Mrsjay · 04/10/2012 12:30

you don't have to 'get it' people wear these ribbons bands to show support and usually the money goes to a fund or charity, there is really nothing to get.

Mrsjay · 04/10/2012 12:32

I'm confused as to why they have chosen pink though, especially since it's breast cancer awareness month.

her child is missing Im not sure she realised or care it was breast cancer awareness month perhaps that is her little girls favourite colour maybe the mum just wants people to remember and think about her, I don't wear any kind of ribbon or band myself for various reasons I don't think they show anything but i can see why people do it,

DogsCock · 04/10/2012 14:47

I don't think the colour has anything to do with the fact that it is breast cancer month. The parents more than likely have not even considered that. I keep imagining me walking around hundreds of miles away wearing a ribbon, which will not help in the search, it all just seems a bit pointless. Same with the tee shirts we have seen in recent missing cases. The family members wearing them when the same picture is all over the news etc. Just strange.

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katieelh · 04/10/2012 15:03

I thought it had something to do with tying up a ribbon out side until you loved one returns, like the song ' tie a yellow ribbon round the old oak tree' so when they eventually return they can untie it, I could be wrong though.

AuntieStella · 04/10/2012 15:16

The family chose pink because it's April's favourite colour.

People are wearing it because it's something they can do, and it's a gesture that, according to April's godmother, the family appreciate.

Those are sufficient reasons for many.

DogsCock · 04/10/2012 15:24

Are you doing it AuntieStella?

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