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AIBU?

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To have told him they cant stay?

66 replies

Leaveitalready · 03/10/2012 19:16

I live in an area which traditionally makes fireworks night a huge deal. Theres a carnival type thing in the evening, and several fireworks display with one main. Last year 60,000 people attended. My house is a stones throw away from the main fireworks and my front door is where these 60,000 people go past to get to it.
My road is closed off for the night and as you can imagine, its mayhem. The displays stop at 10-11ish but people let bangers off left right and centre all night.

With two young children very scared of fireworks, each year I upsticks for the night and take them elsewhere. No problem.

Except today my partner who does not live with me said he was going to the display this year. No problem!

But can his 25 year old niece and her bf of 3 months crash in my front room.
Because they want to come and they live an hour away.
I said no chance. And he thinks Im really unfair.

My reasons - I dont want to leave my home but I have to. I dont want anyone else in my home when its my children and I that should be in it.

I dont want 3 muddy, pissed people falling through my door. One of which is a perfect stranger.

I dont want a young, new couple potentially fucking on the floor where my children play.

I dont mind DP staying but not the others. AIBU like DP thinks?

Disclaimer, my children and DP's children too. So he gets the night off.

(For the nosey people who want to know, we dont live together because we split up for 18 months a few years ago and currently wating for both our tennancys to expire and were moving in together again.)

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Leaveitalready · 03/10/2012 20:35

On the carpet, on the sofa where ever they leave it.

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Pandemoniaa · 03/10/2012 20:38

When I lived, very handily right on the procession routes in a town that has already been mentioned, I was careful about how hospitable I was. Because at events of this sort, it is very easy to discover rather too many (completely unknown) people have also availed themselves of your facilities.

So no, YANBU especially if you aren't going to be there.

fatfingers · 03/10/2012 20:38

So, when you say she is a z list celeb and it would not be anon, do you mean that she might shag in your living room and film it?

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Leaveitalready · 03/10/2012 20:44

No, I do not think anyone is going to turn my living room into a porno. I dont think Alfie Bear and Sophie Giraffe would make a good background.

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SuperB0F · 03/10/2012 20:45

You absolutely do not have to let your house out as a crash pad. It wouldn't bother me too much though, but I think I'd want the pill sugared by said Z-lister or your DP paying for a nice B&B for you so you didn't have to sleep on somebody else's floor.

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Leaveitalready · 03/10/2012 20:49

Yes, I was a little miffed at the total assumption that it would be me taking the kids elsewhere while he buggered off out with his niece. I dont mind taking the kids away as such. It was just the assumption of it.

Thats not the reason Im saying no though, because that didnt dawn on me until tonight.

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YUNoSaySomethingNice · 03/10/2012 20:57

Ok, if the only reason you dont want them to stay is the shagging then you could go to a carpet off cut shop and buy a very cheap off cut of carpet ( Although you might want to avoid shag Carpets Grin )

And tell them they have to bring sleeping bags. Problem solved!

You would then have no rational reason for them not to stay.

cerealqueen · 03/10/2012 21:41

If he is staying too, fine, YABU. Bit he should make sure it looks like nobody has stayed and have place all sorted.

If he isn't then no, I would not want people staying in my house when I am not there. YANBU.

GoldShip · 03/10/2012 21:44

YABU.

I really don't see the problem. Don't you trust your partner? It's his family. If they've never done anything bad before its a bit unfair to judge them already, and on their age it would seem.

It is your house, and up to you, but you're still a bit unreasonable in your thinking.

GoldShip · 03/10/2012 21:48

And for gods sake what is with the fixation on sex?!!

I'm quite sure they're not going to be shooting cum all over the show.

ChaoticismyLife · 03/10/2012 22:05

YANBU If you don't feel comfortable with people staying when you're not there then you have every right to say no, sex or no.

Besides how do you know that they won't sleep in the DC's beds?

doinmummy · 03/10/2012 22:25

Exactly Chaotic. Why would they want to shag and smear jizz on your best Wilton when they could do it in your bed?

BlueSkySinking · 03/10/2012 23:26

Your DP will be present, so unless you really don't trust the kids, let them stay.

JustSpiro · 04/10/2012 19:14

Could your DP get an inflatable mattress for them to kip on and ask them to bring their own bedding?

TBH I think YAB a bit U, but as someone else said upthread 'your home, your rules'.

DowagersHump · 04/10/2012 19:20

I think you should buy some of those disposable dust sheets and cover the living room in them :o

Sorry, umm, no idea really. It wouldn't bother me but I let people stay in my house all the time when we're not here. It's when we are here that I don't like it

StuntGirl · 04/10/2012 19:29

I think you're unreasonable and a bit mad but it's your house and your mind is clearly made up.

And why do you think they'll be shagging on the floor? Don't you have sofas?

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