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AIBU?

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Original poster

to be saddened by oveeprotective(?) mom?

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ChaosTrulyReigns · 03/10/2012 10:56

Not sure if overprotective is the right word here.

I've just smiled at a toddler in a shop, she reminded me very much of DD2 at about 3. Same curls, same build, and wearing a similar coat to one she used to wear all those years ago.

I think I got lost in a bit of a reverie, and perhaps did more than a glance at the child.

The mom turned and hissed at me "stop staring at her".

Think I'm a bit over sensitive atm, but that was uncalled for wasn't it?

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MrsHoarder · 03/10/2012 12:47

Oxford: Clearly you were collecting babies.

MonaLotte · 03/10/2012 12:47

How rude of her!

ConferencePear · 03/10/2012 12:47

YANBU I'm just back from a supermarket shop where I fell in love with a little boy of about 12 months because he reminded so much of my DS at the same age. We smiled at each other each time we passed and his mother joined in. It was lovely. I was not planning to steal him for heavens sake !

OhChristFENTON · 03/10/2012 12:47

Maryz, that's bloody awful - your poor Mum

thebestisyettocome · 03/10/2012 12:50

These are awful stories

This is why I like where I live. Everybody makes a fuss of children.

TerracottaPie · 03/10/2012 13:08

Yes FolkGirl there should have been a warning with that there link.

Some of us have ishoos you know.

Kaida · 03/10/2012 13:11

I expect it very much depends on where you live. Here (not going to be more specific than that but still within England) I get someone smiling at, playing peekaboo games with, or chatting to toddler DS every time we go out. I certainly don't mind, it makes me smile, and he's so cute and personable how could anyone not want to engage with him . I did have one older gentleman smile at me first, to check I think how I would react, then when I smiled back he talked to DS. She's a loon, OP, YANBU.

HuntingBears · 03/10/2012 13:13

Ah Bless, I feel awful for you. The woman is nuts. (Mother, not you.)

boiledprat if only there were more people like you in the world - though you have confirmed my worst fears that people are indeed surreptitiously staring, though not helping. I will never forget being in M&S coffee shop one day and feeling like the the Biggest Arse in the World for thinking I could take my 9m twins and have a cuppa myself. (Stuff flying around all over the place, screaming, being asked to move tables in the middle of it. The Shame.) A lovely lady helped me. Will forget her. Sorry that this is off-subject.

cory · 03/10/2012 13:23

stop me if I've told this one before but I got glared at for stopping a toddler from stepping into oncoming traffic

obviously having his arm touched by my unhallowed and potentially paedophilic hands would be so much worse than merely going through the windscreen of a car

LaQueen · 03/10/2012 13:24

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Poledra · 03/10/2012 13:30

Who are these people? When someone smiles at my DCs, I bask in the reflected glory, assuming that they are thinking 'What a delightful child! If only all children were as smiley and cute as that one!' And I get myself all puffed up with pride at how everyone recognises just how wonderful my children are then they go postal for no reason at all and I turn into a fishwife

EnglishGirlApproximately · 03/10/2012 13:41

Bloody hel! I live in a village with a rather aged population and ds gets fussed over by old ladies all the time. I'd never be able to leave the house if I got upset. I moved into my house just before I had ds and when he was born the lady across the road, who I had never ever seen before, came over to 'have a look at the baby'

chaos you should treat yourself to one of those bags of mini muffins to cheer yourself up.

HeartsTrumpDiamonds · 03/10/2012 14:29

YANBU. I used to love it when people would coo over my DDs. Doesn't happen any more

MummytoMog · 03/10/2012 15:02

My DD and DS are so utterly beautiful that the entire world stops to gawp at them I assume it as their due....

The only thing that bugs me is when people try to stop the kids doing things I think is fine (walking carefully along low walls, climbing up steps to a slide on their own), but I don't shout at them I just cheerily say that they're fine.

MarysBeard · 03/10/2012 15:11

Yes, that's the only thing that gets me too MTM. When people shout "Oh no!" if DDs trip over, when 90% of the time they will brush it off, get up and carry on. Unless someone overreacts, when of course they a) feel embarrassed b) think they OUGHT to be upset because someone is making a fuss.

Moominsarescary · 03/10/2012 15:15

Mad people!

I'd not seen this in rl until a few weeks ago. A mum had left a toddler outside the door of the hairdressers, the mother was only just inside the door and an old lady with a walking frame stopped to chat to the toddler.

Well I've never seen a women move so fast, she yanked the pushchair into the shop. God knows what she thought the women was going to do, she didn't look like she was ready to drop the frame and do a runner with the child

pigletmania · 03/10/2012 15:16

Yanbu what a nasty woman. What example is she setting to her child

TittyWhistles · 03/10/2012 15:24

We're you dribbling?

At least the woman merely hissed at you which is quite discreet and didn't, as I heard a Mum do once, shout, "Take your filthy eyes off my baby you effing pervert and EFF OFF!"

FionaOJ · 03/10/2012 15:35

YANBU.

However, I was in the supermarket car park,with dd in the trolley, walking to our car, and a guy walking towards us was staring at dd with an odd expression on his face. I caught his eye but he kept on staring, and as we drew level he actually stopped walking and was still gazing at her! I was just about to open my mouth when he turned around and ran back to his car.. and got his baby out of the carseat in the back! He was obviously staring thinking 'I'm sure I've got one of those somewhere' ha.

pigletmania · 03/10/2012 15:41

Mary's that s so sad, what is this world coming to?

fuzzpig · 03/10/2012 15:45

YANBU

If anyone stares at my DCs, I just assume that they are being nostalgic or broody, because my 2 are obviously completely scrumptious :o

fuzzpig · 03/10/2012 15:48

maryz. Presumably/hopefully the woman was saying she needed to wash the toy because it had been on the floor, not because your mum had dared touch it?! Still bloody rude though :(

greenandcabbagelooking · 03/10/2012 15:48

Excellent Fiona

I got glared at for daring to say "Excuse me, sweetie" to a toddler stood in the middle of the isle in the corner shop. It was that, or knock her flying with my basket or bag.

Sokmonsta · 03/10/2012 16:51

Awww. I love it when people stop to coo over the twins, then comment that 'I must have my hands full/ be busy don't I have a tv when they see dd and Ds as well as dts I love it when someone offers a hand with the twins when I'm out. Usually I find out they are/have twins themselves. They're also the ones who give you that knowing look when I'm looking particularly harassed with small children and twins in tow.

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