Am I being unreasonable here?
My DD is 3. We have had some very tough times recently and have ended up having to stay with my family (Dad, stepmum...kids)
My Father has very little time for small children, he is almost annoyed by them.
On the first day we arrived my DD was playing, she was very excited and was screaming ...not in a scared way, but in an over excited way.
My Father took it upon himself to bellow at her "NO screaming" she was terrified, she didn't know him at all and had only just met him (we lived abroad)
DD came and hid in my lap for 15 mins or so, crying.
Since then (now 7 months later) she is still scared, instead of crying though, she will tell him she hates him. I am at a total loss as to what to do? I have told her not to say it, to be quiet....all in his home. Its really getting me down.
I don't think there was any need to say anything at all, I'm very on the ball with my kids and would have asked her to stop playing/screaming anyway.
My Father has a habit of saying cruel things, he asked me what it was like to give birth to my Mother while staring at DD (divorced many years bad feelings....)
He told my son (9) he was a "stupid boy" and said it was just a quip from Dads Army.
Its been very, very, decent of him to put us up till we got back on our feet(we have now) but this has left me upset.
Is is unreasonable to think if he had just kept quiet, none of this would have happened?
Thanks for reading :) its turned out pretty long!