To think that posting a pregnancy announcement on your friends Facebook is NOT funny just hurtful

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The young girl in question is a student. I am her employer - family members & family friends all saw it. People started messaging congrats messages to her mum.

I knew it was fake - well I hoped it was as she was doing manual handling at work at the weekend.

Why is having "fun" on Facebook any different to the nasty spreading of lies & rumours behind the bike sheds there was in my day?

For fuck's sake, stop using that goddam word "frape"! It is vile and unnecessary.

I also really dislike the term 'frape'. It is a horrible trivialisation of rape. There are plenty of other ways to describe what's happened.

I have to say that if you were planning on giving her job to someone else based on a Facebook pregnancy announcement then yabvvvu!

Hate the word 'fraped', can we use facebook hacked or something? 'Facked'.

'facked' is good! There needs to be an alternative. It's really out of kilter with the We Believe You campaign, for instance, to use a term trivialising rape in this way.

Everyone who is using that ridiculous word is being unreasonable. Stoppit,the lot of you.

It really isn't any different to childish spreading of rumours, whispering campaigns etc and as far as hoaxes go, it's pretty rubbish and unimaginative.

Did you talk to the girl and get the truth? Then job done. If the girl's 'friends' also work for you then I'd be getting them all in and having a chat with the lot of them, being an employer of young people often means acting as a 'Mum' role too. And that sometimes includes checking what they are up to on Facebook, I'm afraid.

Why would anyone be friends with someone like that in the first place? Seriously, how juvenile can you be?

Facebook is a stinking pile of festering shit.

And it's no good saying that you should be more careful choosing your 'friends' when the whole principle of FB is to connect as many people as possible to as many others.

The friends are uni friends I think.

Let me reiterate I have known her, her parents & her sister since she was 12. She only started working for me when she was 16.

I have another job available (she's not in the running for that as she's not qualified yet) but both candidates have equal experience etc. I have virtually had to pick one out of the hat to choose do even if people say they shouldn't matter it's in the back if your mind.

However long you've known her, I'd say that your relationship with her changed when you became her employer and you should unfriend her on Facebook. I'd never friend an employee or my boss, it's just a totally different relationship.