To seriously doubt my bf's capabilities after he left my front door open?

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Just that really. I've just dropped him at work, having loaded the car with his music equipment as he was making himself a sandwich. I came back to find that he had left my front door wide open. I was gone for 45 minutes. I'm absolutely delighted and surprised that nothing seems to be gone and nobody seems to have moved in - I live in Lahndahn so this seems to be fucking lucky - but I can't believe he could have been so careless/preoccupied/in the clouds. Do grown men really get so dreamy that they do things like this? I have no contents insurance as I can't afford the ludicrous security measures that would be necessary to grant me it. So I could have literally lost everything. AIBU?

I've never done it and certainly not in someone elses house. I have two kids both with sn and a full time job. so nuff to be preoccupied by.

I've done it more than once and about every 2 weeks I leave the key in the front door. Thankfully we've never been burgled, as insurance wouldn't pay out for me being a 'moron'.

I don't think I'm particularly stupid but I am normally rushing around after 2dcs and I am not the most organised person in the world.

YABU give him a break, everyone makes mistakes!

It is pathetic because it implies that maybe the door was left open because he was a man, and men become 'so dreamy'

It's pathetic because it implies men are a little bit silly and not up to the day to day realities of closing a front door.

It's pathetic because it is sexist and demeaning. Like those adverts that show men incapable of using the washing machine.

If you're talking about 5 cylinder locks, not all insurance companies require them, or at least they didn't used to as my last flat didn't have them.

Oh well accidents happen and hopefully he will have learned his lesson. (From your reaction!)

I'm very surprised that you don't have contents insurance though. Are you not even covered if there was a house fire? I also can't think what security arrangements that you would need to make that would be that expensive.

You could literally lose everything for the sake of a few pounds per month. Seems more irresponsible than inadvertently leaving a door opened on a one-off occasion.

Actually, I'd be livid if someone did this with my house as I am always very careful with other people's stuff and expect them to be with mine. If it was truly a one-off I think I'd forgive someone after kicking up a bit of a fuss but I wouldn't be able to deal with someone being thoughtless on a more regular basis.

Guilty on several occasions, fortunately you can't see my door from the road.

5k for locks .

A very quick look shows you can get 5 lever mortice locks for as little as thirty quid, window Locks from as little as £12.70 and patio doorlocks from £12. It is very easy to fit the window and patio door locks yourself and even the Front door locks are not beyond the capabilities of a competent DIY'er. Alternatively, you just need a handyman to install them. You do NOT need to pay a locksmith.

I think you probably made a mistake with the 5k or someone was trying to rip you off big time.

Gah, complex number, I don't think the op is being sexist, she just sounds stressed like she didn't expect an adult to not be able to shut the door.And in this case the adult happens to be a grown man. I'm not sure about the contents insurance - I think it would be advisable to get this checked out - but in any case, as other posters have said, your bf leaving the door open wouldn't cover you anyway.

If you say so Raymondo.

I'll climb carefully, if reluctantly, down from my high horse.

So, just to be clear, you don't have proper locks or contents insurance?? The door was a simple mistake, that is rather stupid.

I came home 1 day and discovered my teenage children had all gone out. Not only was my front door wide open but every light in the place was on. The Tv was on and the shower was still running

I was floored

Contents insurance wouldn't cough up if all your things were gone because the door had been left open.... just saying.

Yeah, wouldn't contents insurance be void if you got robbed because you left your door open?

YANBU. Its a bloody stupid thing to do.

Seems to be something in the air. I was sitting in the car as DH drove home from a meal out, all of a 5 minute journey. At the roundabout in front of our house, he turned right instead of going straight on. Went into a little village instead of the road to our house. "Where is it I'm supposed to be going?" he said...

Didn't have anything to drink either!

"I have no contents insurance"

Can you afford not to have contents insurance?

I don't believe it costs £5k to have 5 lever mortice locks fitted. Where do you live - Buckingham Palace?

"I don't have contents insurance because TVs need replacing every couple of years, etc."

So what happens if a fire guts your house/flat? No clothes or shoes left, no furniture, nothing left in a usuable state.

What about flood damage? I'm guessing if you need serious security to satisfy insurance requirements, at least part of your property is at ground level. If you're at the top of a hill, that may not be of so much concern.

If you get £5K quotes for fitting a couple of locks, I'd bet you're the type of person to spend £10K on a three piece suite, right? You could lose £50K+ at the drop of a flaming frying pan.

I don't know about unreasonable, but you are being supremely daft.

We recently needed to update our locks.

The lever mortice locks cost about £100 each to be fitted. How the hell can it cost £5000?