to think nobody should ever be asked if they want a senior ticket?

[greyvix]

OK, so I am 52 and not looking very youthful, but I was shocked and upset this evening when the cinema attendant asked if I wanted a senior or adult ticket. I pointed out that anyone wanting a senior ticket would ask for one, and that it is offensive to ask.
DH said I should have said yes, and got a cheaper ticket, but it ruined my evening. Am I being unreasonable?

If he only offered you one senior ticket, maybe he was suggesting it for your DH.

I'd be gutted too.

I doubt that it was done with any malice. I'm rubbish at guessing ages especially if there are over 10/15 years older than me. Showing customers the price list would be a better way of asking.

You shou have bought the cheaper ticker though! My dad went gray in his 30s and was always offered(and took) the oap price. It's different for men though - I doubt that my mum would have been so happy.

I think it is probably unreasonable to object as the attendant probably thought they were being helpful by trying to save you money. What age were they? I remember being totally unable to make a reasonable guess at someone's age when I was in my teens etc.

However, I can understand that you found it upsetting as no-one likes it if assumptions are made about their appearance or age. So it's not unreasonable to be upset, especially if your DH wasn't included in the suggestion (or was it for him??!).

I remember being really shocked when a woman I knew said something about 'being nearly forty' and I honestly would have said they were in their late forties already because she had grey hair and was a bit chubby so it was impossible to tell - but now she's nearly sixty and still looks the same so maybe it's not a bad thing!

I once let an old lady on the bus and she said 'thanks son' which was a bit galling being a 22 yr old woman - but then I looked at myself and realised that as I did have a pony tail through a baseball cap, was wearing jeans/trainers and no makeup then at a quick glance it wasn't possible to tell.

I've never had this, only last week I was asked if my gc was my dd. Now I'm smugnanna, But it has also been a pain, getting kicked out of a pub at 25, not being taken seriously. So you could dye your hair, but I'd be happy to pay less, to get in any where.

YABU

Why does it actually matter what age you look?

Fifty here - wish someone would offer me cheaper tickets.

Many things worry me, but not that.

I'm with you OP, as I keep getting IDed and find it humiliating at 34.

My attitude towards the whole thing, is they either ask EVERYONE the same question or they don't when it comes to age otherwise its rude or discriminatory in someway.

I have friends who went grey early and feel that they were then treated as older than they were despite young faces. Are you grey? because that would explain it.

I still get asked for I'd, never offends me as I know the person serving me is just doing thier job

YABU.

I had to do that sort of job and if you don't ask people they come back and say: why didn't you tell me there was a senior/child/student/military insert discount of choice ticket? And some of them will ask to see the manager, because you are not doing your job properly according to them.

And he/she might have just tried to help you save money as I did to people with a 4 year old child, giving them free tickets that were meant to be for under fours only

Primrose Showing the list makes no difference, because some people will think that's rude/ tourists with little English and sometimes the discounted tickets do not feature in the price list

ZOMBIE THREAD!

SO THE OP IS EVEN OLDER NOW.

Was the cinema attendant young? Because I remember as a 20-something thinking that everyone over 40 looked pretty much the same ie just plain old.

Oh yes. Just noticed how old this thread is. Revived by a rather strange post!

I mean, I'm already on the thread and that's two name changes ago, at least!

Oh yes, I didn't realise it had been bumped by a wankmeister.

ZOMBIE THREAD :(

YABU I think it's good to ask - since the person may not know they could be getting a bargain - however, I think if they ask, you're perfectly entitled to take the senior ticket regardless of your actual age!