I've name changed. I'll admit from the start that this situation is going to sound rather far fetched, but I'm a genuine regular mnetter and need advice.
8 years ago my Dad a lady, 15 years his junior, from a very different culture. They seemed happy enough for a long while, they are very different owing to the different cultures, but they both embraced their differences. Over the past three years they seemed to grow apart more, doing less and less together to the point that their lives were pretty separate.
At one point she started to spend week days in London (we live 2 hours away from London). She was helping a friend run a business who needed her language skills, Dad knew this friend and visited the business she was helping with. She said she was doing this for some independence and some money. However, there was nothing to stop her getting a job closer to home if she wanted to (she obtained cititizenship after getting married). Dad didn't expect her to work, but was happy for her to do so. He didn't like her being away all week but rightly couldn't say she couldn't do it. She only did this for 8 weeks, and then gave in her notice.
Things got worse and worse and 7 months ago she left for her home country and they began divorce proceedings. Apparently she justmissed her home country so much and felt she couldnt be happy here. Dad was really upset, but he has been making a good go of the single life.
After she had gone I was sent a series of Facebook messages from someone claiming to have met her in London. He said he had slept with her, as had other people, some for money. He said this had happened in our home town, not just in london. I've claimed he was telling me this so I could tell Dad and he wouldn't have I give her so much money when they divorced (obviously this wouldn't be the case, as adultery doesnt affect settlement).
I asked him to stop contacting me. After much soul searching I decided not o tell Dad- at the time I assumed it was all over and there seemed little point upsetting him even more.
Fast forward to today. He tells me she is comin back- on a plane tomorrow. Apparently shes not been able to settle in her own country, misses him and wants to try again. The divorce settlement had been agreed, she was happy with it and it was generous- but it hasn't been paid so can be stopped, what I am getting at here is that she could have stayed away, and got a nice amount of money, but she's chosen to come back instead.
I just don't know what to do about the Facebook messages. I've no idea who the sender is, or if he was genuine, I didn't accept him as a friend for obvious reasons. My gut feel is that she wouldn't sleep around, especially for money (!!), but I can't be sure.
My DH is adamant that I should tell Dad, but Im not sure if I should leave well alone. WIBU if I told him? Any advice very gratefully received.