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To wish my new upstairs neighbour would install a doorbell?

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showtunesgirl · 29/09/2012 11:00

New guy has moved in upstairs about three weeks ago. Thing is, during the last two weeks, he's removed his doorbell. As he's just moved in, he's getting a lot of stuff delivered so I am always having to answer the door for him. This isn't always convenient when you have a 10 month old DD and have to deal with shirty delivery people who are delivering heavy things and want you to sign and then carry goods in.

Humph.

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LilQueenie · 29/09/2012 11:05

refuse. you are allowed to. Have the same problem as you and they didnt even ask me first.

fiftyval · 29/09/2012 11:07

Don't answer the door if it is not convenient and you are not expecting visitors. If it is important and meant for you, the person ringing the doorbell will call back/leave a note.

Whitecherry · 29/09/2012 11:08

Refuse to do it if you dont want to be neighbourly

What does having a ten month old have to do with it?

whois · 29/09/2012 11:08

I would say just don't do it, but I suppose you don't know if it is for you or him when the bell ring? Maybe try asking him? Or put a note next to your bell saying "do not ring for flat x" or something?

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showtunesgirl · 29/09/2012 11:09

Well the delivery people tend to call just as I'm putting her down for her first nap.

I don't mind being neighbourly if they ring his doorbell and he's not in but this is a bit different?

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Rosa · 29/09/2012 11:10

Ynabu but I would stick a note to his door saying as much.....

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showtunesgirl · 29/09/2012 11:11

I'm hoping he's going to get the point though as a moment ago a delivery person banged on my window. We both went into the hallway and he said: Oh it's probably for me. I'll let you know if it's for you.

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EmpressOfTheGoldOceans · 29/09/2012 11:13

What fiftyval said.

The people in the flat next to us have frequent late night visitors and a broken entryphone (broken for months so they're clearly not bothered about fixing it or finding an alternative).

After the third time one of their guests rang our entryphone at 2am, we now switch ours off at night and automatically hang up during the day if someone calls us for access to next door. It's the only way.

JetSetandGo · 29/09/2012 11:14

I agree with Rosa - stick a note outside his door and your door too explaining that you are unable to take deliveries for the neighbours.

Whitecherry · 29/09/2012 11:16

They bang on your window!!!

Well that's not on

PickledFanjoCat · 29/09/2012 11:17

Just explain to him, I'm sure he will be fine.

Things like this escalate into petty little wars easily otherwise.

PickledFanjoCat · 29/09/2012 11:18

I wouldn't leave a note. Just knock on his door and say can you get your bell back please delivery men are waking my baby.

Bet he will say Blush sorry will sort.

Acandlelitshadow · 29/09/2012 11:19

YANBU. Just don't sign for his stuff. You're not his gofer and you don't want to become it by default.

Suzietastic · 29/09/2012 11:21

Why don't you just say 'do you think you could install a new bell because since you removed it, I keep getting delivery people knocking on my door & window which is waking my baby up'. Not at all unreasonable. If he fails to do anything about it just don't take parcels I. If open the door. He'll soon sort his life out when he has to trek to delivery offices etc.

PickledFanjoCat · 29/09/2012 11:24

refusing to take parcels is a last resort IMO its a bit much to start off that way, he's only just moved in and isn't even aware it's a problem for you until you tell him!

DrSeuss · 29/09/2012 11:25

My upstairs neighbour a few years ago was called Geoff. I know that because he introduced himself but, had he not, his girlfriend would have given it away by yelping, yodelling, shreiking and squealing his name at all hours, from all parts of the flat. 8am in the kitchen, anyone? It got so that i couldn't look at him when I passed him on the path! I would have swapped it for a few deliveries!

PickledFanjoCat · 29/09/2012 11:27

You have to be careful starting stuff with people in flats.

Some people can get extraordinarily petty and awful.

I lived in a block where pettiness involved 2 flats starting to turn off each others electricity and throw clothes around in the laundry room and ended in an actual fight in the corridor.

I was in the middle flat, joyous!

So I always say, start polite, be nice.

suburbophobe · 29/09/2012 11:37

Did you take that opportunity to ask him about a bell for the postman?

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showtunesgirl · 29/09/2012 11:45

It was all a bit fast really. I was in my dressing gown and turban having just had a shower and I think he was a bit embarrassed. Grin

I think there'll be a doorbell there pretty soon!

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Jux · 29/09/2012 15:09

Talk first, act later. I'd probably offer to install it for him "if you don't know how" just to add a bit of embarrassment to the mix. But Sometimes I'm just mean. Wink

totallypearshaped · 30/09/2012 04:04

Don't sign for stuff - think about it, what if it's cocaine?

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showtunesgirl · 30/09/2012 09:49

Er, I don't think Yodel, TNT etc would be carrying around coke?

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FloppyWire · 30/09/2012 12:34

Er, I don't think Yodel, TNT etc would be carrying around coke?

Perhaps that's why they rarely deliver? Grin Wink

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showtunesgirl · 30/09/2012 18:23

LOL at Floppy. Yes, that must be why they chuck things over garden fences. Grin

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showtunesgirl · 27/01/2013 19:03

Still no doorbell and a guy just rang with a pizza delivery. The pizza man said he would ring them. I gave them a rap on their internal door and then went back inside my flat.

What's the statue of limitations for being annoyed?

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