My little sister is getting married next year. No other sibs, just us two. She's six years younger than me, has no children. I have two children. I got married 3 years ago. She was my maid of honour.
When I was planning my wedding, she wasn't around, and I wanted her. She was living in London doing a Masters, then during the summer in the immediate run up to my wedding she was on a placement for her masters, abroad.
Now she is planning her wedding and I'm here, and I was really excited about helping her, but she just isn't involving me at all. She is having my DCs as attendants and a few if her friends, she has not asked me to have any role in the wedding at all. I know this is her choice, I know you don't ask to get a reciprocal invitation, I know it's lovely that she's involving my children, but I'm still hurt. I didn't have my two best friends as attendants so I could have sister instead (small wedding, lots if attendants would have been daft) but asked them to do readings. I'd love to do a reading for sis but she hasn't asked.
One of her friends works for my husband and I hear more about her wedding plans via him courtesy of the friend than I do from her. Last night I found out via Facebook that she had bought her wedding dress with mum. I didn't even know she was going dress shopping. Husband had the day off, could have had the kids. I'd have given anything to go with her but she didn't tell me.
I always thought we were so close but maybe not. AIBU to be upset that she doesn't seem to want me involved at all?