To leave now

[Pickles77]

To go up the m23, m25 and m11 for a 2.5 hour drive with a 14 day old just been fed and a dog for the weekend

Tbh I am not surprised that your dad is peed off. They have tried to support you the last few months and your twunt of an ex clicks his fingers and you go running.

YABU-if you feel you cant cope then seek help from your hv or gp not from a man who has already let you down repeatedly...

I havent said I've gone. That was a bit harsh thanks

Hello Pickles have been wondering how you were getting on. Sorry you're struggling, it is hard work. Am glad the father has been good but I wouldn't set out this evening, maybe tomorrow morning if you're dead set on going. I agree it would be better for him to come to you but appreciate its difficult & could be awkward.
Hope things start to get easier for you soon.

I hope you haven't gone yet, getting over the QE2 is a nightmare on a Friday night ignoring the rest of the m25! Please leave it as late as you can without getting too tired to do the drive as the road is much better the later it is!

Surely it'd take more than 2.5hours too? I get off at the A12 and it takes me 3ish hours to get to the end of that from the M23?

I was good, I didn't go

Although I snapped at pink forever she is right

Please dont apologise pickles. I do understand why you want things to work with your ex-I really do. But I still think that at the moment everything is still too early and he needs to prove that he is good enough for you and for your dd.

Did you stay home? I hope so

The other thing to bear in mind is that your DD should only be in a car seat for an couple of hours - any longer journeys in future will mean you need to stop and take her out of the seat for a while as they're awful for babies backs.

I didn't go, he's going to come down after work later. The problem with him coming down is the likelihood of my father strangling him

I went halfway Saturday. A bloody disaster. Good job I didn't go the whole way on Friday. Thank u everyone for convincing me not to x

I take it he hasn't risked visiting you then?

He's too scared