Not a AIBU post, but more traffic here and not getting a response in pregnancy section

[Revelsarethebest]

im 38 weeks pregnant with first baby.

Had horrendous SPD since 8 weeks preg :-(

Over the last few weeks its got alot worse! I didnt think it could get any worse!

I cant bend down, put my socks and shoes on.

When i walk up or down stairs, i have to do it very slowley and then im panting and sometimes wheezing like mad when i ve reached the top.

Its now becoming too hard to drive. When gettting in my car i have to lift my legs in using my arms as they wont move high enough to get in the car.

Im then panting and wheezing again.

Im 25years old, was perfectly fine before i got pregnant.

I ve put on around 4-5 stone during this pregnancy, and im roughly 16stone now!! Im wondering if this is normal in pregnancy or if its the weight gain?

I had SPD and barely put on any weight (baby weight but very little on me if you get my drift).
Make sure you tell everyone you have it, and make damn sure your midwife attending you at delivery knows.
Mine sort of slipped under the radar, and although I handled labour fine, I got into difficulties during the final stages of birth (baby got stuck) - they whacked me into stirrups and I can honestly say that I could never even have imagined pain like it. I screamed and screamed and screamed - they gave me pethidine, and a local anasthetic - nothing even touched it. As a result, the first few moments of my daughters life are shrouded in a hazy muddle of pain - I know they couldn't let me hold her because I was such a mess (I had her for a second or two but I wasn't able to hold on to her and didn't really know what was going on anyway).
What I find upsetting now is that it was avoidable, if they'd taken steps to avoid the stirrups (a different position, or more preparation in terms of meds if stirrups were unavoidable).
I am pregnant again and cried a bit (or more than a bit!) at my booking appt when trying to explain to the midwife my concern. I am absolutely terrified. It's all already been noted and she is already starting to help me think of ways we can get round it. She's already said she will make sure my notes have "NO STIRRUPS" scrawled all over them and has suggested a load of other things that we can do in the run up and in the birth itself to make it a much less traumatic experience.
I wish I'd realised how much it would impact the birth, and that I'd talked to the staff attending me on the day, and to DH in more detail about SPD and how it affects you (he knew the outlines but I'd not really thought to share any details, like what made it worse etc). As it was, although he was beside himself when I started to really scream, he didn't really get why and assumed it was the birth so didn't like to say he didn't think it was normal, to go from managing fine to such agony in the space of seconds. This time, he's more ready to advocate for me if I end up in a situation where I can't speak for the pain.
Tell everyone you come into contact with and ask for help finding non-painful positions.

My dcs were born at 37 and 38 weeks-all perfectly fine...

I had SPD from 17 weeks it was torture and made me so miserable.

I just took it easy and went sick from work, it went the day after my daughter was born!

The weight gain is probably amplifying it. I gained two stone in my second pregnancy but still had it badly from around 12 weeks. First pregnancy only had it in the last six weeks. It is so awful and I only made it because of an excellent osteopath. The good news is I am in great nick now now, nine months on.