'sort out your own weight before talking about mine'

[KillerRack]

I am youngish, always been big and am quite far on in my pregnancy so pretty big tummy atm, plus having to contend with SPD, awful hormones and severe MS and constant tiredness.
Was at a family gathering and an older member of my family who I is known for being a bit sort of tactless was chatting away, she patted my tummy which I sort of ignored I know people do that with no malice.
She was discussing weight with my DM who is currently dieting and even though I was half across the room talking to another person she decided to bring me into the conversation .
Saying 'you can get killer onto that diet as soon as shes got this one out' It was awful people could hear and were looking at me.
I made excuses to go and get a drink or something and as I was walking past this person they tapped me and started going on, "Was just saying how well your DM is doing and how she needs to bring you along with her after the baby, and get all this weight off!!*poking me all around my sides".
She was slim as a younger woman but like many older women has piled on weight with age. I glared at her stomach and said "maybe you should sort out your own weight before talking about mine".

My DM said that I really shouldn't have said anything but tbh I'm a but upset at the expectation that I should just tolerate it.

WIBU?

Well done you

I have an aunt who is utterly obsessed by people's weights, it's the first thing she comments on, she shouted across a car park at my MILs funeral "sweet kitty you have a good figure" erm thanks but I'm a bit shell shocked right now. She was also the first to tell me when I had put on weight.

YANBU. I wish I came up with good retorts that quickly!

YANBU, and that was quite a polite response IMO. Well done.

YANBU and well done :)

Agreeing with LadyBeagle not all us old codgers run to fat y'know

She was rude, she deserved it. Bloody cheek, particularly as you are pregnant!

I had a friend who mentioned my weight every time we met. It wasnt about my weight, it was about hers.

I suspect this is what this conversation was about too. Some people make themselves feel better by putting others down.

This 'friend' would say 'have you lost weight? You look very thin? I do think you have lost weight'

Pissed me off no end. What she really meant was 'I hate the fact that I am overweight, I talk about it all the time, I want to make sure you dont think you are better than me because you are thin'

I didnt give a toss about her weight.

YANBU. Excellent retort!

Thankyou, I thought I was restrained a bit too. I certainly think within families there is a thing where older people can behave how they want and young'uns are often burdened with it and simultaneously expected to behave better. well I've noticed it within mine, and alsio the idea within society that being overweight makes you less of a human being, less deserving of decency.
When she was talking about me and other people could hear my blood boiled I could have locked in a soundproof cupboard forever the cow, but yeah I thought do not shout or swear it will only make people think 'young girl feral girl'.

She did look a bit shocked but nowhere near as shocked as I would have liked lol.

I just felt sooo angry, a part of me was more angry at my DM/DGM for not saying like 'leave her alone'.