Electronic gadgets - yes, I agree, a great way of keeping in touch, but I'd like her to go out and get away from the gadgets, BBM, fb, TV, PC etc if its possible.
Red wine - that's what I'm thinking, I'm not expecting anyone else to host mega-sleepovers, but just to pick up the phone (they're quite spread out so can't wander round the corner to each others houses) so that these friends can meet up and keep in touch.
Vestibule - DD doesn't expect me to do 'big' events, she's just asking me to help her get her old mates together occasionally. Hanging out in other people's house ... no, just ours!
Twelve - that's my reason for asking really, long standing friendships are important and this group have a great time together - far better than she has with any current schoolfriends who chop and change with the weather. I'm only just getting used to girls' friendships being so hormonal - my older DSs never went through all the on/off friendships that my dd experiences.
Meowmi - yes, I realise other families can have all sorts going on behind the scenes (tell me about it!) but tbh its easily done, they're a lovely group, don't need supervising (much) and I do enjoy seeing them having a good time, laughing at posters who think this is 'weird', however, I'm not going to be a martyr to the cause.
I think I'll just leave it to her, she can try and get them to do something and if not, then we've done everything we can do. Thanks all.