to be angry my DSDs new secondary school published on their website she was 'shy and quiet'

[londoner01]

My DSD just started a state secondary school, she is naturally an introvert but has reasonable confidence and is generally content with social situations. At primary she had lots of friends and was loved for her cheerful calmness.

On the first day they finished writing a paragraph to describe their day, one of the girls in DSD's form wrote 'The first person I met was X, she was very quiet and shy. I soon got to know some other girls though who are fun.'

this was then put on the website alongside photos of the first day. DSD is the only X in the year group.

DSD has seen it and is very upset, she hates being labelled shy or quiet, it really crushes her self-esteem and she now believes all the girls think she is boring and don't want to be her friends. The girl who wrote it is now a few weeks into term one of her friends but she thinks she doesn't actually like her and is in tears that the whole school will see those comments. I don't think the girl wrote them intentionally at all.

AIBU to be angry at the school for publishing on their website such potentially hurtful comments and not being more sensitive that small comments like that, with my DSD's name especially.

Well said Madbuslady and beattheclock.
Glad you got it sorted OP I bet the other girl who have felt awful if she realised how her writing had come across.
Read Susan Cain The power of introverts.

Good on the teacher.

If it is a public website that anyone can see (including people not connected with school) then you should insist that it is removed immediately if your DSD is clearly identifiable. If the school question this point out they are failing in their duty to safeguard your DSD by letting the outside world know that she is shy and therefore potentially vulnerable. In fact I would do this even if the website is only accessible to students and parents especially given the impact on your daughter.

Sorry, did not read all posts and see follow up. OP might suggest to school that technician needs proper safeguarding training - it is appalling that s/he thought it appropriate to put the piece on a website. Most schools insist on written parental permission before photos of children are used as well.

It may well be that in the forms that parents send back that they have ticked the box that says photos may be used on the website. I assume the op is happy for her dsd photo to be on there. The issue was the wording of the child's paragraph. It seems to have been a genuine mistake which has been put right and the school apologised.

yes, cansu is right, we were only worried about the impact on our DSD to be labelled in such a harsh way not the fact her photo and name were on the website.
Only her first name was written (but she is the only girl with her name in the year) the photo next to it was not of her. When we joined the school we said her photo can be taken and published, we have no problem with that.