I am being unreasonable but is it ok to shit my pants?

[thebeesnees79]

I am 37 weeks with our third baby. we already have a 5 & 3 year old.
My mum was going to be on stand by when I go into labour but my uncle who is dying of cancer has took a turn for the worst. He lives abroad and my parents are flying out asap to see him (probably the last time.)
I know they need to go but I am scared to give birth alone and if I do go while they are away my Dh will have to stay home to mind our two children.
Am I being unreasonable to shit my pants at the prospect of birthing alone
Or should I just woman up and get on with it

Home birth?

OP, as te others have said PLEASE ask someone, a friend. Most would completely understand, we know that babies are born through the night as well :o and most people would not mind. This is not in the same league as asking someone to take your child to school every day if you're worried after the recent run on "selnse of entitlement" threads ;)
I was asked by one friend, didn't get to do it :( I also was going to offer for another friend but didn't and I regret it.
Ziggy - she has had two traumatic labours.

I wouldn't think twice about it either, even for someone I wasn't really that friendly with to be honest. It's human nature to help out in a situation like this.

Don't feel bad about asking other people to put themselves out. It's just one interrupted night for them, really not a big deal, and most people would be delighted to be able to help and be involved in the big event.

I did it for my sister and had the joy of being able to tell her DS that he had a new baby sister, it also meant I got to take him to the hospital to see her and he and I both got cuddles with the hour old newborn.

exactly Grass ! OP could you ask a neighbour? If you're organised, you might just be able to bundle the children round with bag packed and sleeping bags to sleep there? You can either ask a friend to take over the next day, or just tell the school what is happening and your DH can let them know the children won't be in.

and if people don't want to do it, they will have plenty of genuine reasons to say no, I don't think they'll feel awkward or you'll be putting them on the spot.

Ok I have a few options thanks to you guys :)
Will start asking about and see what I can come up with.
thanks everyone xx

Just ask someone, this is the sort of thing that makes you realise that all those people you just chat to at groups are actually potential really good friends.

I know it is daunting. We have no local family so for my last 2 births I had to ask people if they minded being on call for babysitting duty and you know every single person I asked was more than happy to do so. I made a list and stuck it by the phone with names, phone numbers and when they were available so some people were ok with coming at night, others worked in the day etc.

I'd do it. For your friend it's one night. For you it's one of the biggest nights of your life. No woman should have to go it alone in labour, and most women I know who have had kids would bend over backwards to make sure you don't have to.

I don't think you're DHs family would mind if they had to call in an emergency to work once? My sil had DD a half day when she should have been working, in fact she nearly delivered DD2!

Any friend would be really flattered to be asked to look after your kids. And the uncle sounds a great option. Assuming your kids are in school/pre-school, if it's not the weekend couldn't he drop them off and go to work? Fo ask him: I bet he'd be really chuffed.

My neighbour is about to give birth any day now. I have told her that I am available at any time of the day or night if she needs me to look after her kids. Im sure your DH's family will be willing to help.

my lovely aunty has offered to step in (she has chronic leukemia which is why i didn't want to burden her)
so my dh can stay home to look after children if I need her. I was in a right flap last night (must be hormonal) & my biggest fear is giving birth alone
stupid for a grown woman I know

Where are you, there's probably someone on here right now that would be more than happy to stay with your kids, I know I would, even if it was in the middle of the night. I'm sure there must be someone you know who would be happy to help out with that, another mum from the school run? YANBU to not want to have your baby on your own, if you do get to that point then you will be fine, but it wouldn't be my choice.

my lovely aunty has offered to step in (she has chronic leukemia which is why i didn't want to burden her)
so my dh can stay home to look after children if I need her. I was in a right flap last night (must be hormonal) & my biggest fear is giving birth alone
stupid for a grown woman I know

sorry I don't know why I have posted the same thing twice!!! stupid phone lol.

Where are you? I'd have your kids so your dh could go with you!

seems fair to want someone and if necessary to strike up a rl friendship with someone from mn...

Glad your aunty has offered to help.

Got the giggles at Punka's image of a thousand Mumsnetters all clamouring to be at the birth. We'd bring fruit shoots, Greggs sausage rolls and Pombears to keep you going!

Good luck, OP

And it's okay to feel worried.

haha!!! Fruit shoots and pombears sound like awesome birth staples.
Thank you ladies you have been very supportive and put my mind at rest.
I am in the North west btw, having this baby at Arrowe Park

So glad that you have found someone and that they are family. Stand down the army!

Now you must keep us all informed. We will all be thinking of you.

thank you! will update when baby is here, with my amazingly easy birth story (well I can dream)