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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

AIBU threads our mothers could have posted ( if Mumsnet had existed in " the old days")

54 replies

wigglybeezer · 23/09/2012 17:55

I drove past the scene of an annoying and puzzling incident from my childhood today and immediately framed a retrospective AIBU post in my mind.

In case you were interested the incident was the occasion of me being invited on a friend's birthday treat which involved me coming along to watch my friend having a riding lesson, who invites children to watch other children having a treat?

Anyone else have a childhood memory that would make a good AIBU post?

OP posts:
Birdsgottafly · 24/09/2012 01:53

AIBU to send my 5 year old to school by herself, after all, it isn't much further than the shop that i send her to with a note and money to buy my fags?

sashh · 24/09/2012 06:39

AIBU

Our phone is a party line. My next door neighbour is having a stonking affair with the milkman. She thinks IABU to listen in, but I think that's the whole point of party lines.

Farahilda · 24/09/2012 07:00

AIBU to wish they could get him back from National Service just for the weekend to see his brand new baby?

RubyStolenBootyGates · 24/09/2012 07:42

IABU to think that what my neighbours might think is more important than the happiness of my family.

Additionally IABU to think that the fact the my daughter's Boy Friend wears make-up and had pink hair means that the end of the world is about to happen.

LRDtheFeministDragon · 24/09/2012 09:20

Oh, good lord, the list.

AIBU not to take my DD to hospital? Her baby brother has accidentally gashed a hole in her cheek with a pair of sharp scissors. It does appear to have gone all the way through, but it isn't bleeding much, and I feel sure it will heal.

AIBU not to take DD to hospital? Her brother has pushed her into a sharp corner and she has a headwound that will heal to look as if she has a third dimple by her eye. But I'm sure a stitch or two will make no odds, right?

AIBU not to take DS2 to hospital for several hours? He claims his leg feels funny, but really, how can it be an issue? (It was broken!)

AIBU to shut five-year-old DD and seven-year-old DS outside, in the dark, at 8pm, because they won't own up to nicking food?

AIBU to be furious with dyslexic and dyspraxic DD and DS2 because they don't seem to be mastering basic tasks like locking the door correctly, at ages 8 and 4?

AIBU to use 'banging your heads together/against the wall' as a punishment? It does seem to work and I'm sure they'll remember it fondly in adulthood (DB does!).

She did mellow out a lot, and to be fair, an awful lot of this I can completely understand. She was mortified when she realized I could have had stitches/DB had broken his leg! I think probably people's awareness of what you can do has changed so much, hasn't it? I think the one she'd have been most grateful for replies on would have been:

AIBU to decline the HV/midwife's visits, if she is going to insist on calibrating her scales for weighing the baby with the monumentally accurate bag of flour (?!) and then find, surprise surprise, that the baby's weight does seem to fluctuate oddly from week to week ...

dawntigga · 24/09/2012 10:30

AIBU to put my daughter last after the following:

My dh
My dog
My cigs
My brandy
Pretty much anything else I can think of

Also, AIBU to use the same names to my dd that the bullies in school use when I KNOW they use those names?

Also, AIBU to blame my daughter for my rubbish teeth when the calcium she stole from me would have been replaced 12 months after her birth?

I'mNOTHINGLikeMyMotherTiggaxx

WithoutCaution · 24/09/2012 11:28

AIBU to think that my MIL took things a bit too far at dinner?

She seems to think that DD should learn not to reach across the table for the salt/pepper and that any well brought up child should ask politely for the salt/pepper to be passed to her. Apparently the only way to teach her this is to tie her to the chair during dinner so that she is forced to ask Shock

DD is now crying and refusing to go back to MIL's house...

Trazzletoes · 24/09/2012 11:32

AIBU to prevent my DCs from listening to 'popular' music? All this Madonna and Michael Jackson malarkey makes my ears bleed.

aliasjoey · 24/09/2012 11:36

(my mother)

AIBU to want a mortgage even though I'm a single (working) mother?

AIBU unreasonable to tell the bank manager who said I needed my husbands signature to Fuck Off?

BikeRunSki · 24/09/2012 11:40

AIBU to go and get Fish and Chips when DH rings at 5pm to tell me he is bringing 12 clients, visiting from the USA, home for dinner. Actually, AIBU to send DSS1 to chippy, let DSS2 bathe DDs and put my feet up ?

(The American's loved it and that dinner party went down in legend. DSBs and DSis find this hilarious as DMs cooking is anything but legendary!)

WithoutCaution · 24/09/2012 11:41

AIBU to smack my DC and tear a strip out of DH? Angry

He left his matches lying withing reach of our 4 and 2 years old DDs. Our DDs, as young children who are interested in everything do, decided to play with said matches - Lighting them and blowing them out while jumping on the bed Shock

I just about had a heart attack and daren't think what might have happened.

  • I do feel very sorry for my poor mother. We also used a TV remote to open a bottle of nail varnish - While jumping on her bed. The bottle broke and her favourite bed sheets were covered in purple sparkly nail varnish Blush
Pandemoniaa · 24/09/2012 11:48

AIBU to ask my six year old daughter to travel to school unaccompanied? It's not a difficult journey after all, only a bus, a train and another bus.

Also, she's quite used to being independent. She got a bike in the summer and she rides that all over town and out into the countryside on her own. Although she did make a bit of a silly fuss when she went downhill too fast, put on the brakes and went over the handlebars. Why, the trail of blood stretched all the way back home...

manchestermummy · 24/09/2012 12:06

AIBU to consider a carseat for DD - I found her in the footwell behind me. I think she can climb out of the carry cot now. What do you reckon?

Mandy2003 · 24/09/2012 12:16

The "position in the community" post reminded me of this:

AIBU to call my 15 year old daughter a slut and forbid her from collecting a prescription for the contraceptive pills she was prescribed for menstrual problems from the local chemist?

dysfunctionalme · 24/09/2012 12:43

AIBU to have left one of my children behind after a day in the country?

Mandy2003 · 24/09/2012 12:44

Only if your surname is Cameron Grin

PurityBrown · 24/09/2012 12:52

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Message withdrawn at poster's request.

dysfunctionalme · 24/09/2012 12:54

Grin Mandy - my mother was simply ahead of her time!

dysfunctionalme · 24/09/2012 12:56

AIBU to expect my dd to take herself to school on her first day and find/introduce herself to teacher etc? I mean, how hard can it be?

reluctanttownie · 24/09/2012 13:19

AIBU to think that I should demand a divorce and maybe also terminate my pregnancy because DH won't get round to painting a nursery for the baby?

AIBU to think that once I've produced a child there's no need to let DH come anywhere near me ever again?

AIBU to think that I should be able to rifle through my DD's room while she's at school, read her diaries, and inspect all her stuff and then interrogate her about it when she comes home?

AIBU to feel really upset and betrayed that my DD (12) is clearly buying things without my knowledge and consent? I found some novelty erasers and a new pack of colouring pencils in her room! She must have been to the stationary shop after school rather than coming straight home. She's so secretive and dishonest! I'm so worried that the next thing I know she'll be taking drugs behind my back, I can't sleep and don't know what to do!!

GuybrushThreepwodWasHere · 24/09/2012 13:25

AIBU to charge my DD1 rent for staying over for a week over x-mas while she's at university? Hmm

AIBU to demand an apology from DD2 for reporting my DP to the police for breaking her arm?

AIBU to make up lies to make DD3 afraid of her loving father because I want her for myself?

AIBU to ignore and unfairly punish DD4 for not believing my bullsh*t?

etc, etc, etc

WithoutCaution · 24/09/2012 13:26

My mum:
What to do???

Our eldest DD buys sweets in our village shop and takes them to middle school (where they don't have this type of sweet) and sells them for almost twice the amount she bought them for.

Is it wrong of me to let her continue to take advantage of this?
Should I ask for a share in the profits since she gets her sweet money from me?
Should I just turn a blind eye and pretend I know nothing about it?
Should I be thrilled that she has a good head for business at such a young age? (She chose this option by the way Grin )

NickECave · 24/09/2012 13:31

AIBU to pack DD 8 and DS 5 into the book of my BIL's car while he drives at 80 miles an hour down the motorway (he was a policeman so being caught speeding was obviously not an issue as his mates would let him off)

Sunnywithachanceofshowers · 24/09/2012 13:32

AIBU to let my DD babysit her infant brother while I'm out for the day? She knows how to change a nappy, and is fairly sensible for a 9 year old.

WIBU to let my DD babysit a neighbour's baby, as she did such a grand job of looking after her brother?

PelvicFloorClenchReminder · 24/09/2012 14:18

Oh PurityBrown Shock Sad

I nearly teared up reading that!