to tell this mother to get over herself next time I see her?

[NapaCab]

So yesterday it was the end of summer party for the mothers' group I'm in and when we came in, I saw one of the mothers and said hi. She said hi and then said to DS (in my arms) 'hey DS! Are you crawling yet? Or crawling properly, I mean?'. Then later on she commented again that he was army crawling, not 'proper' crawling.

Our sons have almost the same birthday (October) and every time I see her she makes some comment on milestones or progress they're making. Her son is walking already and she keeps making a point of this. Clearly she's very competitive and hung up on these things and so far I've tried to ignore her but yesterday I really was quite hurt that she wanted to point out my son's (in her head) 'lack of progress' in front of everyone and make a point of it. She made me feel really self-conscious especially since DS is one of the few in the group who isn't walking yet.

Should I say something to her next time I see her (it's not a competition, get over yourself) or just ignore, ignore, ignore??

[Fozzleyplum]

I had experience of a mother like this. She'd just left her career to become a "professional" mother (and vicar's wife!) and seemed to need to define herself by boasting about her DC's prodigiously early sleeping through the night/walking/everything else.

If it's any consolation or reassurance, she'd regularly have a sideswipe about my DC's comparatively slow development; he reached all the milestones much later than her prodigy. I just wish she'd not moved away from the area before the fateful day when, a couple of months short of his third birthday, my little dullard picked up a book and read it out aloud, fluently. And of course I wouldn't have crowed......much.

I'd ignore her - I love the idea of blaming it on last night's ballroom dancing.

[Proudnscary]

I'd go with a laught and a faux affectionate 'You are HILARIOUS!/You're so funny when you get all competitive', as if it's an endearing little trait of hers that you find ridiculous but amusing.

She'll either get angry in response then she looks like a twat. Or she'll start backtracking 'Oh no, I'm not being competitive'. Or she'll have to laugh nervously along with you.

[crackcrackcrak]

Yanbu she is a knob

Dd walked at 18 months. Her best friend walked at 9 months. No one has ever said anything rude/judgey to me about dd getting there in her own time. Anyway they even out - dd and her bf are mistaken for twins now at least twice a week