..to want to punch the next person who says "what WILL you do with yourself..."

[loverofwine]

To explain. I have four DS. It's been a pretty intense 7 1/2 yrs. Twins, another 19 months later then just as we thought things were getting better I was made redundant and three weeks later discovered that the doctor wasn't the best at inserting coils so now I have a 3yr old too.

They are all great and I wouldn't want to give any back but with all of this plus having PND 3 yrs out of last 7 1/2 I am really, really happy that the youngest now goes to nursery 3 hrs day/5 days a week.

The x2 hours a day I get in the morning is great but it's not exactly a walk in the park. Food still needs cooking, clothes washed etc. And yet everyone thinks it is OK to tell me that I must now be living the life of Riley with ALL this free time.

feeling a bit sorry for myself because this 'me' time ain't living up to the promises

AIBU?

You don't have free time, you're just clawing back some of the extra time you had to create to manage with 4 small children.

In a couple of years you'll be even with the universe.

Then you can decide what to do with whatever gaps are left in your days.

Looove "don't feel Quilty"

Yanbu.

I got a ds2 and a ds 16 weeks, I commented that I preferred Philip scolfield to Amon Holmes. ( I had birth injury and both ds had chicken pox) so have had to stay in a lot and my bil told me I had too much time on my hands. I told him to fuck off.

YANBU! My last has just started nursery 5 mornings a week. That 3 x a day at the school gate means you feel like you never have any time for anything meaningful.

MammaTJ - how do you manage with so little sleep? I used to do one night a week and was constantly exhausted - I've no idea how you do full time nights with 3 kids!

Ive*

all this free time being 2 hours a day three days a week when all you'll be doing is housework?

I'd punch them! Going to work 40 hours would be easier than 24 hours a day with 4 children!

I found a pgce, and now my NQT year easier than one 2 year old at home!!

Gimbling it does strike my that life was easier when I worked pretty much full time (for me that is)

Kids much happier now I am chained to sink. And before you feel too sorry for me I have a home help 4 days a week for 2 1/2 hours/day. But this means no nights out/no clothes/no life. Just to make stuff smooth for them.

gosh the resentment is just flowing

this is like a virtual enema WOW

OOPS

Did the word enema upset everyone

Loverofwine - Me too, i have 5 kids and have help in the house too. I realise how lucky I am to have this. Its what keeps our home and life running smoothly. Even with help though i am still run ragged, yet i know for a fact that a lot of folk think that because i have some help at home, i must spend my days getting pedicures and reading hello magazine - I wish!!

fifitrixibell it is a lot easier than in the holidays!! I feel spoilt atm!! The holidays were a hell of dosing in my bed while my DC tried to kill each other. So glad they are back at school. judge me if you will for this

YADNBU. I'd feel the same.

Yes - there's a whole other post to come along the lines of punching people who tell me how great it is to have a month away in the summer... with my kids in wales, in a tiny house..., with no help except my lovely let slightly creaky mum...

I am lucky but 2 hours cleaning in peace is not nirvana. Although maybe it is as good as I am ever going to get.

slits wrists

Yeah you really are spoilt! Try 3 weeks in west cork in a filthy rented house when it rains for two out of the 3 weeks.!!

Living the dream eh!

Yanbu however, like cold cup of tea, I too asked someone that question on Friday. I was just doing desperate school gate running out of talk-talk and it slipped out.
She looked quite annoyed too...

Alurkat next time just ask her what is her favourite Lakeland product. If she is anything like me that will completely animate her and defray any embarrassing 'what will you do with yourself' faux pas..

Way to deal with social idiots!!

Bloody hell, free time? I'm wondering how you manage it all rather than thinking of you with your feet up!

I only have one and struggle to do anything!

Free time is, I understand it for people without kids so I've blown it

slits wrists then wraps in bandage so can still be at school gates on time